So, I'm actually not having issues closing the deal. I already had sex with the girl, what I need is help keeping her around for a sexual relationship. I kind of feel like it's in jeopardy right now, maybe due to buyer's remorse from quick escalation, or maybe I am completely imagining it. Anyway, here's the summary:
I met this girl on Facebook a few months ago, gorgeous half-black model who is into good music. Added her out of the blue with a message something like "hey, you're cute and your last name is a reference to prehistoric weaponry, press the accept button", which she did shortly afterwards. I proceeded to purposely not give her much attention, maybe liking a photo here and there, making a comment. In any occasion, awhile later I asked her out and she seemed kind of nervous and excited. We struggled mostly with logistics because we both have busy schedules, but ended up having a good date at a coffee house. Some kino escalation, comfort building, good secluded place where we could get to know each other.
So we continued to struggle with logistics for a second date, but it ended up being her texting me out of the blue like "hey, I'm having a house party at (such and such address), you should come over!" I did, more kino escalation, ignored her a bit and focused on meeting all of the other male competitors and displaying higher social value, and seized opportunities to be alone with her when I could. We both drank a lot, smoked some. Had a good time.
Summary: it worked. I could see her digging me even more and we ended up in her room alone talking for like three hours doing the whole comfort building, rapport, vulnerability thing. We ended up in her bed cuddling. But I just couldn't resist. We escalated over the course of like twenty minutes and ended up having sex.
Next morning she didn't seem ashamed or bothered, we both took a shower and went out for breakfast/lunch. Her only mention of last night was, sort of laughing "I didn't even mean to have sex last night, you can't grab my hips like that!" (not taking responsibility, makes sense)
But now, for the week following, she has been almost completely ignoring me. I texted her a couple days later on a Sunday night, hoping to maybe curb the possibility of buyer's remorse, but no response at all from her. So I decided I was going to wait through most of the work week in case she really just wanted some room. I did and today I called her with a plan in mind that we were gonna get together to watch this big box of unsorted indie films. But no answer from her. So I decide it's probably better to just be assertive and send the text an hour or so later. I say "I got this big box of independent short films from a friend of mine. We should do movie night tonight."
She finally responds about 45 minutes later, with "I'm busy tonight!"
I say "Alas, then we shall have to delay. What are you doing tomorrow night?" No response yet...but I'm not sure exactly how to read the situation. I feel like she's more standoffish than before we had sex, even though she was getting really emotionally comfy while we were cuddling.
So my question is: how should I proceed? Tell me, you Venusian masters.