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    Default Did I waste an opportunity?

    On the bus home today there was this really cute girl. The bus was jam packed so we were standing right beside each other. I asked if she was reading the paper that was on the bus (because she was looking at it) and when she said no I just picked it up and took a glance at it. Whenever we would have to move towards the back of the bus (to make room for more people) she would always be standing very close to me, the bus was crowded but not to the point that she was forced to stand beside me. When two empty seats opened up she sat down but I let an older lady have the seat and so I couldn't try anything until I sat down beside her about 5 minutes later. Then I started the conversation:
    Me: excuse me, this may seem weird but were did you just come from a macroeconomics class?
    Her: No I didn't
    Me: Oh, that's weird you look exactly like someone from that class. (BS) You do go to the university right? (I already knew she did)
    Her: Yes I do
    I then asked her what she was majoring in, she asked me and told me she had a friend in that program. We then had basic small talk about University that was very brief. I then waited to see if she would re-initiate the conversation, if she did I would take that as a green light. She didn't and we ended the conversation without saying another word. Did I make a mistake? Should I have kept the conversation going? Was my opener any good or not? Also I made her laugh and smile while we were talking.

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    Default Re: Did I waste an opportunity?

    Opener was fine, I would have omitted the "this may seem weird" part. Don't qualify yourself. Other than that seems like you had the right idea. You should have kept the convo going if it felt right. Don't worry if she re-initiates or whatever. As the man you farkin take charge and lead the interaction. I would only give up when you get blatant coldness/apathy from a girl, if you're getting good vibes keep going! Funny thing - as long as you exude positive energy you will usually get those good vibes in return.

    PS - are you an econ major?

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    Default Re: Did I waste an opportunity?

    Quote Originally Posted by SonnyCurtis View Post
    Opener was fine, I would have omitted the "this may seem weird" part. Don't qualify yourself. Other than that seems like you had the right idea. You should have kept the convo going if it felt right. Don't worry if she re-initiates or whatever. As the man you farkin take charge and lead the interaction. I would only give up when you get blatant coldness/apathy from a girl, if you're getting good vibes keep going! Funny thing - as long as you exude positive energy you will usually get those good vibes in return.

    PS - are you an econ major?
    Thanks for the advice, I had less than 5 minutes to make my move and had used up about a minute already on the small-talk. I didn't know what to say because I didn't want the conversation to seem forced too. Should I have just kept going and then when we got close to the end of the ride asked for the name and number? I may try this again tomorrow ad see if it gets a positive reaction with my goal being to use this enough so that I can differentiate between a friendly girl and a girl who is genuinely interested in the conversation. Sadly, however I'll only have two more opportunities to use this and it won't be useful until the fall again.

    And no, I am not an economics major. I study in international development and globalization, this is my first year and I am required to take both micro and macroeconomics.

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    Default Re: Did I waste an opportunity?

    Keep going but ya don't make it seem forced. Try to broaden the scope of conversation, any question that is a simple yes or no or close-ended is bad. You don't have to be talking constantly in this kind of a situation, you can have a little break and re-initiate it. Silence isn't awkward if you're in public, it wouldn't be awkward if you were just making small talk with a random dude. Same with this. But you wanna engage her steadily or she won't be interested. Things can start slow just make sure to pick them up.

    Yeah just ask for the name and number near the end of the ride. Don't be awk. about it, tell her it'd be chill to see her again then ask for it. Even better is if you keep talking to her a bit after you get the number, shows your in it for more than the digits. Not always possible but advisable.

    Yeah, try this again and again. I don't get why it has to end until Fall. This is just a situational opener, you can use them anywhere and everywhere, you just gotta be quick on your feet. If you play it right getting the number won't be that hard. Once you have it is another story, and will be totally dependent on how much of a connection you made with her. But for now just getting over approach anxiety is great. Worry about the rest later. Eventually, like you said, you'll be able to filter the girls who actually care and those who are just being nice.

    Gotcha on the major, sounds pretty legit man. I was just wondering cus I'm an econ major.

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    Default Re: Did I waste an opportunity?

    I reason I won't be able to use it again until fall is that classes end this week so it wouldn't make sense to ask if she was in a university class when there are none. Do you have any good openers for the bus, I don't really like the "who lies more, men or women?" type openers because they sound way too scripted and I like to sound natural.

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    Default Re: Did I waste an opportunity?

    Quote Originally Posted by jordan_5000 View Post
    I reason I won't be able to use it again until fall is that classes end this week so it wouldn't make sense to ask if she was in a university class when there are none. Do you have any good openers for the bus, I don't really like the "who lies more, men or women?" type openers because they sound way too scripted and I like to sound natural.
    PUA:"Don't you just LOVE public transportation? I mean here we are among a regular whos who of mental health. Luckily, I'm a psych major. "

    Female:"really?"

    PUA:"No, really I'm an econ major, but what the heck, it sounded good at the time. It's nice to meet you, I'm such and such"


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