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    Default Played (need advice from a player)

    Recently I was played by an ex who re entered my life.

    She held a dangling carrot that we would get back together when her life was sorted. She used me for help and money and once she got what she needed, she stopped be nice and never did any of the things she promised.

    Then, when I was upfront and asked her where I stood, she cut me out. Cold. No explanation, just hostility. She chastised me for my faults while never taking responsibility for anything she'd done.

    The worst part of this situation is that I had to be nice in order to get back my cash and things, which I ended up getting. I since found out she's met someone else.


    This happened a month ago. It has affected my life, my confidence and my feeling of being in control of my reality. This is the most malicious rejection I have ever had. I just can't get over it.

    Now, I need some advice. Should I send her a civil letter that simply states she is not permitted to make contact under any circumstances or else I will contact the police (at least restoring my feeling of being in control) or should I just ignore it so she won't have a sense that it was was important anyway.

    A few people I know have told me that she has a reputation of using people and screwing them over, I now feel like an idiot for falling for her charms and manipulation. Man, I was played.

    Any advice from a player on how to turn the tables?

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    Default Re: Played (need advice from a player)

    Quote Originally Posted by markrichards View Post
    Recently I was played by an ex who re entered my life.

    She held a dangling carrot that we would get back together when her life was sorted. She used me for help and money and once she got what she needed, she stopped be nice and never did any of the things she promised.

    Then, when I was upfront and asked her where I stood, she cut me out. Cold. No explanation, just hostility. She chastised me for my faults while never taking responsibility for anything she'd done.

    The worst part of this situation is that I had to be nice in order to get back my cash and things, which I ended up getting. I since found out she's met someone else.


    This happened a month ago. It has affected my life, my confidence and my feeling of being in control of my reality. This is the most malicious rejection I have ever had. I just can't get over it.

    Now, I need some advice. Should I send her a civil letter that simply states she is not permitted to make contact under any circumstances or else I will contact the police (at least restoring my feeling of being in control) or should I just ignore it so she won't have a sense that it was was important anyway.

    A few people I know have told me that she has a reputation of using people and screwing them over, I now feel like an idiot for falling for her charms and manipulation. Man, I was played.

    Any advice from a player on how to turn the tables?
    You got your cash and stuff back right? Then cut whatever losses and forget she even exists. She's a bitch.

    There is no way to "turn the tables" because she's a heartless bitch who cares not a wit and there is no guilt for her. Yes you got played. Simply don't let it happen in the future. The best revenge is living well.

    I know how you feel. You feel she stole your mojo from you and you need some kind of closure by trying to guilt her for doing so and to gain your power back. You want the last word. It won't work. Your mojo is within you, she didn't steal it from you.

    Just say "Thank God she didn't get more than she did and its finally over." and move on. You are giving her power by thinking like this. If you let her get to you then she is winning. Don't let her win man! Don't let her win!

    A "player" wouldn't do sh1t except say "fark that bitch" and find him a new woman to play with.

    In the grand scheme of things you got off lucky. Think about the poor asshole who ends up marrying that bitch. She'll suck him dry. Be thankful you aren't that asshole.

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    Default Re: Played (need advice from a player)

    Yeah, I've been obsessing over it. Thinking about ways to get revenge. Somehow I feel like 'letting it go' is how these people always get away with murder.

    I'll take your advice and pay it no attention.

    If I ever happen to see her around again how should I act? I know she'll be overtly friendly as if nothing happened.

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    Default Re: Played (need advice from a player)

    Quote Originally Posted by markrichards View Post
    If I ever happen to see her around again how should I act? I know she'll be overtly friendly as if nothing happened.
    Ignore her as if she were a leper and if she comes up to you:

    Evil Manipulative Bitch:"PUA!!!!!!"

    PUA: (Shocked look on face) "I'm sorry, do we know each other?"

    Evil Manipulative Bitch: (shocked look on her face): "PUA! Of COURSE we know each other! I'm EMB!"

    PUA: (confused look, then snap of the fingers)"I remember now! You were that evil manipulative bitch that tried to get one over on me. Sorry, I'm busy" (turns back on her)

    Evil manipulative Bitch: "fark you asshole!"

    PUA: (smiles in secret knowing he won in the end)

    No further words will need to be spoken.

    Don't think for a minute that there is a man on this forum, or anywhere in the world who hasn't had this type of sh1t done to them. I remember reading somewhere a couple years back about Style getting played by an EMB. They can be very cunning. We all hurt for awhile. But within a few days you'll be over it, and if not.. take Jim Belushi's advice from his book "Real Men Don't Apologize" (HIGHLY suggested reading)

    "The best way to get over a woman, is to cum on another one."

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    Default Re: Played (need advice from a player)

    THAT is pure gold!! Appreciate your words and support.

    It just occurred to me that the best way to deal with an EMB is to recognise one and then run like hell. These women have dedicated their whole life to winning arguments and mastering how to manipulate people so it's impossible for a decent person to beat the EMB.

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    Default Re: Played (need advice from a player)

    OK, so that was interesting. My advice: living well is the best revenge, I agree with Silicon. Don't even think about taking that BS legal action stuff. It will give her satisfaction that she has hurt you and this little thing is the only thing you can think of. But getting played is nothing. It's the game; sometimes you play and sometimes you get played. Laugh it off. I got played and ended up doing tons of a girl's homework for her for the promise of 1 date, and she ditched me at the last second. Didn't even tell me she cancelled, just avoided my calls! It made me laugh! I played a different girl from church (which I went to solely for the purpose of picking her up); took her virginity and then didn't marry her like she thought I was going to. I didn't plan it; I just got tired of being with her. Anyway, that's life. Next time you see her, be warm and friendly too! It will confuse her. It's an indicator to her that your life is going so well that the past is nothing. If you won a billion dollars today and was declared most attractive man in the world, you would smile and give a warm hug to all your past enemies, right? Be kind and warm to her, like the past is a speck of dust in your big, manly world filled with joy and success. Her dust cannot even stain this image. Be with a hot girl if you can and show her! Go on a self-improvement venture! Next time she sees you, you should be better dressed, have a better physique, earn more money, have a higher degree, drive an Aston Martin and she will regret leaving you. Heck, she may run into further troubles in the future and try to use you again or legitimately want to be with you (the improved version only) if she thinks you have forgiven and forgotten the past. If that happens, then you will be in a position to make her pay in all sorts of sick ways! Put a baby in her; tell her you love her and will marry her. Merge your bank accounts. When she's in labor, let her find out in the hospital that all the money is gone, you've cleaned out the apartment and you've jet off to another country! Video-call her from another part of the world, smiling, with another woman riding with you in your Aston Martin! LOL Oh, and when she returns to the apartment, make sure she finds the place destroyed, with holes in the wall and human feces smeared everywhere and her pet split open and turned inside-out lying right in the middle of the dining room floor! (Less powerful image if her pet is a fish instead of a cat or something.) That'll teach her to play! Hahaha
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    Default Re: Played (need advice from a player)

    Quote Originally Posted by thisisSPARTAAAA View Post
    OK, so that was interesting. My advice: living well is the best revenge, I agree with Silicon. Don't even think about taking that BS legal action stuff. It will give her satisfaction that she has hurt you and this little thing is the only thing you can think of. But getting played is nothing. It's the game; sometimes you play and sometimes you get played. Laugh it off. I got played and ended up doing tons of a girl's homework for her for the promise of 1 date, and she ditched me at the last second. It made me laugh! I played a different girl; took her virginity and then didn't marry her like she thought I was going to. Whatever; that's life. Next time you see her, be warm and friendly too! It will confuse her. It's an indicator to her that your life is going so well that the past is nothing. If you won a billion dollars today and was declared most attractive man in the world, you would smile and give a warm hug to all your enemies, right? Be kind and warm to her, like the past is a speck of dust in your big, manly world filled with joy and success. Her dust cannot even stain this image. Be with a hot girl if you can and show her! Go on a self-improvement venture! Next time she sees you, you should be better dressed, have a better physique, earn more money, have a higher degree, drive an Aston Martin and she will regret leaving you. Heck, she may run into further troubles in the future and try to use you again or legitimately want to be with you (the improved version only) if she thinks you have forgiven and forgotten the past. If that happens, then you will be in a position to make her pay in all sorts of sick ways! Put a baby in her; tell her you love her and will marry her. Merge your bank accounts. When she's in labor, let her find out in the hospital that all the money is gone, you've cleaned out the apartment and you've jet off to another country! Video-call her from the airport, smiling, with another woman! LOL And don't forget to take the Aston Martin with you!
    You are a bigger man than I. My compliments good sir.

    However I would watch out putting a baby in her. A columbian PUA I know knocked a girl up(or maybe she tried to play "keep a playah") and he split back to Columbia to avoid the Child support. They went down and collected his ass and brought him back to the States to serve a year in prison.

    make sure you go to a nation with no extradition.

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    Default Re: Played (need advice from a player)

    Thanks to both of you guys. It's at times like these its great to have the help of the brotherhood.

    It's funny you should mention about focusing on bettering yourself because when I went to collect my money etc. from her she asked if my business deal came through, and it had. I was really upbeat when I collected all my stuff and when I got home she sent a text that said 'you didn't seem angry?'

    It was as if that was her plan and it didn't succeed. Oh well, next!

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    Default Re: Played (need advice from a player)

    Silocone Magician, I must have missed the bit about the baby when I read it the first time.

    That's almost EXACTLY her situation. She's got a child which she had to some player and they're always in court. The only reason I felt empathy for her situation was because of her child and because they had nowhere to live. I think he tried to leave the country as well at one stage, that poor guy would be paying child support to that psychopath.

    I think she'd be the type to squeeze the contents out of the condom and try and impregnate herself in order to get your money. Its amazing that there are people out there desperate enough to do that kind of thing.

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    Default Re: Played (need advice from a player)

    Oh, crap; she already has a kid? Well then just don't take it that far. Better yourself, act super warm to her, and if she wants to get back together, you can choose to do so, and as things are going really well and she feels that she's finally found permanent, stable support for her and her child, throw them out on the street. There! There is nothing more attractive to a poor single mother than a man who is rich and successful. Chew around on that thought!


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