Recently I was played by an ex who re entered my life.
She held a dangling carrot that we would get back together when her life was sorted. She used me for help and money and once she got what she needed, she stopped be nice and never did any of the things she promised.
Then, when I was upfront and asked her where I stood, she cut me out. Cold. No explanation, just hostility. She chastised me for my faults while never taking responsibility for anything she'd done.
The worst part of this situation is that I had to be nice in order to get back my cash and things, which I ended up getting. I since found out she's met someone else.
This happened a month ago. It has affected my life, my confidence and my feeling of being in control of my reality. This is the most malicious rejection I have ever had. I just can't get over it.
Now, I need some advice. Should I send her a civil letter that simply states she is not permitted to make contact under any circumstances or else I will contact the police (at least restoring my feeling of being in control) or should I just ignore it so she won't have a sense that it was was important anyway.
A few people I know have told me that she has a reputation of using people and screwing them over, I now feel like an idiot for falling for her charms and manipulation. Man, I was played.
Any advice from a player on how to turn the tables?