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  1. #1
    AFCforeveralone is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default like to hear story from people who went from a nobody to somebody

    hi ive lurk on here once and awhile, but never posted so il tell you my story and thing about me and any advice or help would be nice

    (pros)
    athletic
    higher than average smart
    good at video games and sport (but dont like to do much sport other than gym.
    good a everything i put my mind to but socialising
    healthy
    good looking
    value my life

    (cons)
    im very shy and timid
    dont talk much
    19 years old never had a girlfriend or sex
    socially arkward
    social anxiety(get anxiety over anything new)
    dont like confrontation
    poor vocabulary and english
    overthinker
    day dream about how good my life could be
    very poor
    dont have a good memory
    dont know how to let go and have fun
    think i might be shallow
    hate myself and others.

    The only thing going for my in my life is studying other than that im doing nothing i stay at home every night wantting to hang at club or with friend and hate myself for not going out at nights.

    i have very little friend groups and even in the my group of friend i dont talk. i only talk when 4 max are around and when i do talk its not much. i dont fit in well with groups.

    i have nothing to give in conversation dont know how to make long convasation even with 2 people dont mind listening to people.
    i even find it hard to talk on facebook and dont use it becasue im scared of being judged by other for multipule reason including(not having a girlfriend or ever having sex, getting ask weired questions, or someone paying me out).
    even though everone uses facebook.

    i try to ask my friend to hang but there always busy. i try to make new ones but because of all of the above find it very hard.

    when i was in my teens i always played video games and my friends wanted to hang but all i wanted to do was playgames online i could of had many girlfriend aswell but was too shy or timid to ask them out even when they came up to me. so i didnt really socialise and my friend online would always pay me out and bring my ego down.
    back in primary school i use to be the life of the party shy but i would take risks and they always payed off.

    ive dont think i have ever had someone care for me in my life other than my mum and my dad but dad left when i was 12. i think i got the shyness from my mother father is also from another country.

    someday i wish to be very good at talking to people and become the life of the party again.

    ive been doing consuling with a therapist and still find it hard, ive havent been happy in a long time and im lost to who i am.
    really need an big ego boost but dont know how to get it

    would like to hear story of you people who went from nothing to something

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    Default Re: like to hear story from people who went from a nobody to somebody

    "Nobody loves me but my mother, and she could be jiving too" -B.B King

    Aw man, your story hits home to me and I would reach and say its relatable to so many on here as well.

    I too am athletic, was hella shy cuz my mom (verbal abuse though), made fun and bullied when I was young till I joined the High School football team. The muscles came but had to work on the social skills. Would't mind to be at home and play games on a Saturday night. Felt awkward in conversations, always trying to say the right thing to make people like me etc...

    But man, sticking with this you will find that power to change within yourself.

    Im a few years into it, and the changes are very noticeable. First days of school, everyone is all shy. Im out there talking and meeting new people. Can start a good conversation randomly, I smile and brighten other people's days with my presence, and i see the opportunities out there to talk to women. And they are plentiful.

    By no means I am a full PUA. I am still working on consistency and picking up girls that are passing by, but this stuff works. And its not even just this PUA stuff, anything that shows that you have the power to change your world. Me, I used PUA to understand that the I have the power to be great. Its already inside me, and it is already inside you. Things like this just opens up your world. Like the Matrix, it lets you see clearer and understand that you can break out of the rules this timid society made.

    The success on here are real. Lots of people going from rock bottom to a life they love.

    And this website community is on point. Come here if you need inspirations... that or read Lay Reports. They are always fun.

    I know its frustrating cuz there are times in your life where you know that you are the man but this might come far and in between. But you can be that person you know you can be, you are already on the path, and that willingness and hunger to change is a positive.

    Just work on what you need to, do not mind failing (something I'm working on now, but you see how this is a quality to successful people in any field), talk to everyone (not just girls, but everyone. It helps develop conversation skills. Even if its awkward at first), and truly find fun in all you do. That is the best way to make the path to your goal enjoyable... well, besides the success that is soon to come.

    You can do it man. Keep your head up and ball like a boss

    Peace

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    Default Re: like to hear story from people who went from a nobody to somebody

    Great advice above. Especially the bit about the Matrix. The world may seem set in stone but once you start to believe you'll see that you can break the rules and shape your reality.

    I also have a great deal of anxiety, especially social anxiety. One day I realized - I'm not afraid of failing, I'm afraid of succeeding. Success is scary to us because it requires that we face new, unfamiliar situations. We have to put ourselves in the line of fire to succeed. The voice that tells you "I can't do this" is just your anxiety trying to protect you from future hurt. But that voice also sabotages your deepest desires. You have to learn to ignore it, believe in yourself, put your ego on hold and go out there and do what you need to do.
    Last edited by SonnyCurtis; 04-06-2012 at 12:31 PM.

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    Default Re: like to hear story from people who went from a nobody to somebody

    What you need man is some classic confidence building exercises and your shrink is failing you miserably if he doesn't realize this.

    You need to dress yourself up a bit. Get your hair done, hell have a completely makeover, get you a new outfit. First change your outward appearance, then the inward will follow.

    Then go out onto the street, go to the mall, go anywhere. You don't even have to open anyone. Just go out and walk with your head high, your chest puffed out, your spine straight and your shoulder back and square. Practice that walk, master that walk.

    As you are working on your cock walk. Attempt to make eye contact and hold it for as long as possible with every female that comes within 3 meters of your position. This is called "The Social Zone" and once she crosses the line into your social zone you should immediately seek to make eye contact and hold it. Don't lower your gaze, don't look away. Look her straight in the eyes and hold it until she looks away and SMILE at her. That is all you have to do. You don't have to say a word. Just SMILE.

    Do that over and over and over again and you will rapidly discover, it's not painful! It's not scary! It's FUN to look a woman in the eyes and stare her down and smile at her. That is ALPHA. You will begin to feel more powerful about yourself. Girls will smile back! Yes, They will. No one is going to hurt your feelings. No girl in her right mind who has a friendly, good looking guy smiling at her is going to do anything except smile back. She may even wink at you or give you some kind of IOI. Even if you don't feel up to saying anything to her.

    Once you can do that every time without looking away, then you can start just by saying "Hi!" with every woman who looks your way and holds your gaze. Every single one. Don't be afraid. Women like it when good looking men notice them. They LOVE it. She feels a boost and so will you.

    Do this every chance you get. After you can go out, hold a gaze with a woman, smile at her and say "Hi" every time. Report back to us, we'll help you take the next step. But you need the basic newbie mission first.

    You are giving her a gift with your smile. You are telling her, without saying a word, that you noticed her. This will make her feel good. It doesn't matter. It could be a 90 year old lady in a wheel chair, she will still feel GOOD.

    You do like the idea of making women feel good right? So go out and just do. You will enjoy it. Trust me.

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    AFCforeveralone is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: like to hear story from people who went from a nobody to somebody

    thanks for all the inspiration, hearing your story gives me hope and motivation to get my life back on track.

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    Default Re: like to hear story from people who went from a nobody to somebody

    Silicon i look forward to reading your future messages.

    That was truly inspirational.

    @AFCforever

    Dude its a long road and a fun one!
    I have come along in leaps and bounds in the last year before and after getting into this stuff.

    When i went home after 15 months away everyone was surprised at how confidently i held myself and more assertive i was. I just gave off this aura and a more than a few people said it to me. It was truly amazing to have people i know say this to me and just to show how my working on my life has improved me.


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