First off.. Hi guys this is my first post. I generally don't post threads. I just read and assimilate the forums. But supposedly I have to post a reply or post a thread to keep this account from getting deleted. So I decided.. why not start a thread stating my problem.
So I like this girl(actually a woman) in class who is like 10 years older than me(I'm 23). I really like her cause her personality attracts me a lot. Also she sports a classic look which is very unique from rest of the crowed. I have interacted with her for a month now (luckily I was paired up with her for lab projects, we sit next to each other). Talked with her a lot in the process and got to know a lot about her and she seems really interesting.
I'm sure she isn't married, but I don't know for sure whether she has a boyfriend. Haven't dared to ask her yet, but it didn't seem like she has one either. She spent years in the army and has come back to college to study more, but she actually is very intelligent and does study and perform really well. She always dresses up specially with lip gloss, light make up etc when she meets up with me during lab(None of that during class). Moreover, I've never noticed her wear the clothes she wore during the labs, during classes when she doesn't sit beside me. Also she never lets the conversation stop in a silence even for a second. This kind of gives me a signal that she likes me, but I might be wrong.
I generally do this trick where I crack a really bland joke and see how the girls reacts. Generally if the girl likes me she laughs at it, if she doesn't she calls me on it. I've tried it with her, she laughs but the thing is she is always way too polite with everyone. So its confusing me. I'm unable to escalate it to a higher level of intimacy cause I don't seem to get outright indicators from her that she likes me. Generally with other girls they try to touch you, ask you whether you want to study with them together etc. With her there is none of that.
We have had long conversations about non-school matters and the last time I met her I have walked her to her car, but didn't feel comfortable asking her out on a date. I generally need to get more closer than this to ask someone out. I don't
I have complimented her sometimes(she is a ballet dancer and keeps fit).But, it would part of some conversation that almost makes it sound hidden. But my friends say that I should bring it up strongly and make it the base of the conversation to show that I like her. Any ideas to do that without sounding too cheesy?
It just feels kind of weird that I'm unable to ask her out. I don't see that expectation from her face or is she masking it out? I've never had tons of girls friends, but a very few and most them kind of hit on me first and I never had to work too much on it. But I could see their interest in me and it was fairly easy to ask them out. This is very different, but I really want to try her out. I can't bring up the flirty angle on her. Can't really make small jokes about her cause she is really very polite and doesn't like bad language(Err..).
I'm probably making no sense here and my thread might be fairly out of place in this forum.. but I would be glad to answer more questions that you put out.. to make more sense. My question however is fairly simple. How do I escalate this positively and get her out on date somehow. Oh one more thing.. should I add her on Facebook? I generally add girls/women on Facebook after knowing them for a while and generally in front of them. Like for ex:- hey.. are you on Facebook? Whats your Facebook name? Browse it on my smartphone and show them. Is this you? and then go on from there etc...It kind of helps the conversation too. Like I look at their photos and and ask them about it and make casual jokes about their photos to make them(actually me) more comfortable when I chat with them or comment on their status on Facebook.
P.S : I'm a newbie here so spare me if I'm asking questions that are weird and redundant. And I know 10 years difference in age is a little too much, but I don't care. I want to give it a try.