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    IPityTheFool is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default She touched my heart, need PUA-opinion

    I dated a woman for about 6 weeks, we came closer, kissed, kept in touch daily etc. Things went exactly like they should. However, when I wanted to seal the deal she backed off even though I'm sure wanted it too.

    She told me afterwards that she doesn't want a relationship and doesn't want to meet me on a "weekly basis", I told her that I don't want friendship. So the expectations were clear and at that point I thought I'd never hear from her again. As I once told her that I will NEVER EVER run after girl I wouldn't have contacted her again either. But...it didn't take a full week when she got back to me, shortly telling me that we should "forget what happened" and told me about stuff she experienced meanwhile. I replied in a polite, non-flirty way.

    I don't know the reasoning (she lost interest all of a sudden, she is playing, games, she is battling with her own emotions (self protection), she is bored, combination of those) but unfortunately for me she touched my heart which has not happened for some years.

    At the moment I intend to:
    -not initiate any contact, only react
    -not call her
    -definitely not ask her out

    However, looking at this list basically also means dropping her completely and the fact that she got back to messaging me indicates "ok I needed to increase the distance but I'm still here".

    I know that it's not pua related literally but maybe some insights from a pua perspective? Strategy? I want her but as stated I will not run after her so it's a tough call for me (showing that I'm still interested vs. creeping)

    So let's see if I can really get some solid advice as the forum title promises

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    Default Re: She touched my heart, need PUA-opinion

    Define what it is you want, tell her that and then resist any attempts by her to put another frame on it including the "confusing, what does it all mean" frame which she is currently putting on it.

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    Default Re: She touched my heart, need PUA-opinion

    Hey, to be blunt, have u guys 'made it' together before? Cuz too me it sounds like u both got really close on an emotional connection, and didn't hear so much physical.
    If that's right then it just started off a little backwards, and moving too fast on that level. Take it easy where ur at it sounds alrite. You don't have to completly shut her off id say, just freeze out a bit since she still textin ya or watever.
    good luck!

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    Default Re: She touched my heart, need PUA-opinion

    yeah that's true. I did take things slower physically because I felt this could be something special and not just one of those "hey summer incoming, let's have a good time" things. Actually she kissed me first which never happened to me before...and yes, I have not been so close with a woman on the emotional level so fast ever before. There has only been one LTR in my life with this kind of connection.

    I have a potential "hey summer"-alternative so my physical needs are probably secured. But I want her...

    she got back to me on FB first, now texting via smartphone. I would not wonder if she's gonna call in the next 2-3 days. I'll stick to my strategy and only react.

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    Default Re: She touched my heart, need PUA-opinion

    Cool man, sounds like yall just need to get on the same page now.
    Cheers

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    Default Re: She touched my heart, need PUA-opinion

    lol, it didnt take 3 days and she asked me out for the weekend...looks like I'm in^^

    gonna report in a couple of weeks


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