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    Default unsure of signals

    I'll go through the facts quickly.
    I'm married.
    She has a boyfriend.
    We hired her recently.
    Im 5 years older, no kids. I make a significant amount of money. (not sure if this has anything to do with it).
    Thought I was getting signals of attraction from her. Cute girl. More shy than not.

    Playing with hair a lot, Lots of shoe dangling, not necessarily when talking to me but in a group with me. Our workplace is all girls.
    Smile and head tilt. Eye contact.

    I enjoyed watching the subtle body language.
    Not sure if it was real or just something I've made out to be more than it was.

    But now I've noticed she makes sure she does not sit next to me at meetings, or its something Im' reading into.

    I know that I'm married and I'm her boss and should NOT pursue anything.

    But I just wanted to see what people thought of the body language / signals.
    Do girls play with their hair just randomly?
    Do girls dangle their shoes just randomly?
    Could it just be a habit that the do?
    And I shouldn't read anymore into it.

    I just don't to be some creepers reading the body language wrong.

    Another thing that threw me off was after work (only 20 mins after) she called me, asking me a work related question, I'm positive she had the answer to...
    And if she didn't have the answer, it could have waited to the next day.

    Tips, advice? Are these IOI's?

    Thanks.

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    Default Re: unsure of signals

    I think it's sort of important to know the context of how you guys interact. Is this one of those 'admiring her from across the room' kind of things? or do you guys talk and laugh and flirt all the time?

    I would say, given that you are in a pretty sensitive position being her boss, do very mild kino escalation (touching the elbow, touching the shoulder) and only do it sparingly, then gauge her reaction. If this is a 'admiring her from across the room' kind of thing, I would ignore it completely.

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    Default Re: unsure of signals

    Not sure what admiring from a distance is.
    Talk to her often, obviously.
    The hair playing seems to happen all the time when I'm talking to her or just nearby, maybe she likes to comb her hair with her fingers.

    Touching her on the shoulder and elbow, hand seems to initiate no reaction.

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    Default Re: unsure of signals

    I would say playing with her hair is an IOI and her being comfortable with your kino is an IOI. What is it that you want out of this interaction? Sexual tension?

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    Default Re: unsure of signals

    Not sure what I want out of this...
    I enjoy the attention.

    I had become infatuated with the girl, and my emotions run rampant. Cannot stop thinking about her. My thoughts wouldn't even make sense. (job, marriage, seems not to matter if I could have the girl).


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