Guys I need your advice please.
I met this hot girl about 3 months ago. She is a model from Spain and came to NY. She was a friend of a friend and rented a room off me in NY. At first we just hung out together and within two weeks we were having sex. Within a month she had practically moved in with me and stays in my room every night. We are now three months later, we hang out everyday and has started telling me that she loves me and has never felt this way about anyone before.
Im chilled about the relationship, love being with her but simply have a trust issue with her. I dont know how I should handle it or whether I should accept her explanation. Here is my dilemma.
When I first started seeing her I know she had been "seeing another guy" for about 3 months. It seems she was in a relationship for 4 years with a previous guy who lived in Switzerland. She explained whilst she never broke up with him, when she moved to Spain she started seeing him less and less and hadnt had sex with him in a long time and had started seeing other guys. It was a long distance relationship and this guy had just turned into a friend.
So when she moved in with me I didnt see it as such a big deal as we were having sex and that was it. The relationship has moved on and now I really like her. We decided to become an item and have even been on holiday together.
A month ago I posted a simple picture of us from our holiday on Facebook and tagged her. All her friends and mine started posting comments of how cute we looked together and what a great couple we make. She untagged herself and deleted the picture from her page.
I was naturally upset and asked her why? She explained that she didnt want to "hurt" her ex (the one she had been with for four years) and needed to clean up the relationship and properly end it.
I told her if she wanted to be with me then I expected honesty and she shouldnt be embarrassed of having a photo on Facebook of us together. She said she wasnt but all his friends and fam were on there and she genuinely didnt want to hurt him.
I wasnt happy but accepted this and she agreed to properly end it with him. She says she has but i know he still texts her calling her baby on a bi daily basis. On asking her why she says its because we are still close friends. It seems he was part of her life when she had no family and he means a lot to her. As he is in Switzerland and she is in NY I knwo they dont see each other but I didnt overly like the continued communication and told her. She promised to cut it down.
So after she "broke up" with him supposedly a week or so later I asked her whether she was going to change her status on Facebook to in a relationship with me (wanting to see if she really had broken up). She said it was too early but then said she would do it. She never did.
Ive pushed it a few times and she gets very moody saying ill just delete the whole facebook account. I dont need it. But for me as far as Im concerned it looks like she just doesnt want him knowing she has a new man.
A few days ago I posted a few photos of us out and about and she didnt seem to mind. (I later found out that she thought her ex couldnt see them as she had limited his profile). He did see them and texted her " Hi Baby Blah blah ablah. Then went on to end I like the photos of you and Tom together looks like your having fun".
She said she felt so bad as it must hurt him.
She had since gone away for two days to Boston for work. She called me the moment she arrived saying she misses me so much. However I looked at her facebook page and she has deleted all the photos of us together and also now has to "approve" any new tags.
Im in a big dilema. If i question her she will probably say i have to delete him and his family and I dont want to upset him. Or probably has just limited the ex and thinks I dont know she has hidden / deleted the photos.
What do i do? Everything else is amazing. We have sex twice a day. She is so caring, a lovley and beautiful girl and I dont know whether I just accept the fact that she will change the status when she is ready and allow photos or whether I am just like the other guy she "dropped" and will ultimately go back to her ex. She says Im crazy and should grow up. Facebook is irrelevant, but to me its more of what it stands for.
If on the other hand she is just genuinely not wanting to hurt him then should I accept this.
What should i do. She is calling me in a few hours do I mention it or not etc.