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    Default In a relationship with Hot Model Girl wont comit on Facebook

    Guys I need your advice please.

    I met this hot girl about 3 months ago. She is a model from Spain and came to NY. She was a friend of a friend and rented a room off me in NY. At first we just hung out together and within two weeks we were having sex. Within a month she had practically moved in with me and stays in my room every night. We are now three months later, we hang out everyday and has started telling me that she loves me and has never felt this way about anyone before.

    Im chilled about the relationship, love being with her but simply have a trust issue with her. I dont know how I should handle it or whether I should accept her explanation. Here is my dilemma.

    When I first started seeing her I know she had been "seeing another guy" for about 3 months. It seems she was in a relationship for 4 years with a previous guy who lived in Switzerland. She explained whilst she never broke up with him, when she moved to Spain she started seeing him less and less and hadnt had sex with him in a long time and had started seeing other guys. It was a long distance relationship and this guy had just turned into a friend.

    So when she moved in with me I didnt see it as such a big deal as we were having sex and that was it. The relationship has moved on and now I really like her. We decided to become an item and have even been on holiday together.

    A month ago I posted a simple picture of us from our holiday on Facebook and tagged her. All her friends and mine started posting comments of how cute we looked together and what a great couple we make. She untagged herself and deleted the picture from her page.

    I was naturally upset and asked her why? She explained that she didnt want to "hurt" her ex (the one she had been with for four years) and needed to clean up the relationship and properly end it.

    I told her if she wanted to be with me then I expected honesty and she shouldnt be embarrassed of having a photo on Facebook of us together. She said she wasnt but all his friends and fam were on there and she genuinely didnt want to hurt him.

    I wasnt happy but accepted this and she agreed to properly end it with him. She says she has but i know he still texts her calling her baby on a bi daily basis. On asking her why she says its because we are still close friends. It seems he was part of her life when she had no family and he means a lot to her. As he is in Switzerland and she is in NY I knwo they dont see each other but I didnt overly like the continued communication and told her. She promised to cut it down.

    So after she "broke up" with him supposedly a week or so later I asked her whether she was going to change her status on Facebook to in a relationship with me (wanting to see if she really had broken up). She said it was too early but then said she would do it. She never did.

    Ive pushed it a few times and she gets very moody saying ill just delete the whole facebook account. I dont need it. But for me as far as Im concerned it looks like she just doesnt want him knowing she has a new man.

    A few days ago I posted a few photos of us out and about and she didnt seem to mind. (I later found out that she thought her ex couldnt see them as she had limited his profile). He did see them and texted her " Hi Baby Blah blah ablah. Then went on to end I like the photos of you and Tom together looks like your having fun".

    She said she felt so bad as it must hurt him.

    She had since gone away for two days to Boston for work. She called me the moment she arrived saying she misses me so much. However I looked at her facebook page and she has deleted all the photos of us together and also now has to "approve" any new tags.

    Im in a big dilema. If i question her she will probably say i have to delete him and his family and I dont want to upset him. Or probably has just limited the ex and thinks I dont know she has hidden / deleted the photos.

    What do i do? Everything else is amazing. We have sex twice a day. She is so caring, a lovley and beautiful girl and I dont know whether I just accept the fact that she will change the status when she is ready and allow photos or whether I am just like the other guy she "dropped" and will ultimately go back to her ex. She says Im crazy and should grow up. Facebook is irrelevant, but to me its more of what it stands for.

    If on the other hand she is just genuinely not wanting to hurt him then should I accept this.

    What should i do. She is calling me in a few hours do I mention it or not etc.

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    Default Re: In a relationship with Hot Model Girl wont comit on Facebook

    Any advice guys? Someone must have some thoughts!!!!!

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    Default Re: In a relationship with Hot Model Girl wont comit on Facebook

    It you truly love her you gotta trust her that she just doesn't wanna hurt this guy. You can rest assured shes not flying to switerland to cheat on you. Everyone has different ways of dealing with stuff and if you want to be with her sometimes you have to put up with it. However if you truly feel you can't trust her than trust your feelings and move on.
    In life you get what you put into it.

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    Default Re: In a relationship with Hot Model Girl wont comit on Facebook

    Quote Originally Posted by Yolo007 View Post
    It you truly love her you gotta trust her that she just doesn't wanna hurt this guy. You can rest assured shes not flying to switerland to cheat on you. Everyone has different ways of dealing with stuff and if you want to be with her sometimes you have to put up with it. However if you truly feel you can't trust her than trust your feelings and move on.
    Ive told her shes needs to disconnect from him on Facebook and have no contact for a period of time. She argues that she has no sexual feelings for him and hasnt for a long time so there is no need. If i keep pushing this it will cause friction. How far do I push it?

    Also shes so sweet to me always and tells me how much she loves me but then gives me "shit tests" about other guys. Saying silly things like i was just thinking about my exs and what they would like to do to me. Then says shes joking..... How should I act?

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    Default Re: In a relationship with Hot Model Girl wont comit on Facebook

    Simple. Gvet over your beta insecurity andx let her do her facebook thing.
    Hot girls have tons of guy friends and hangers on, including ex boyfriends. you'll have to get used to that. My rule is always give them all the rope they need to hang themselves.

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    Default Re: In a relationship with Hot Model Girl wont comit on Facebook

    Remember you are the prize, not her . By talking about her ex you keep him in her mind, don't let it phase you. Keep an eye out for it though. As for facebook if she doesn't want to hurt him then she should let him go so both her and the ex can move on.

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    Default Re: In a relationship with Hot Model Girl wont comit on Facebook

    The more you emphasize him in your relationship, the more it will actually push her toward him emotionally. The guy isn't a threat, so every time you portray him as a threat, it actually reflects negatively upon you and your confidence. I have had several girls break up with their boyfriends simply because their boyfriends started getting jealous of me.

    In other words, back off. Let her deal with her emotional issues at her pace. Although gaming a girl before the relationship is about emotional distance and patience, being in a relationship is about trust. She will assume the image of her that you portray. If you portray her as untrustworthy and a cheat, she will probably be much more likely to give in to untrustworthy behaviors. When you have a jealous partner, it becomes amazingly easy to think "I'm already being cast into this role, why not take advantage of the perks?"

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    Default Re: In a relationship with Hot Model Girl wont comit on Facebook

    Thanks guys. I appreciate all your help.

    Just one more thing. Shes away for a few days and calling me non stop etc.

    She asked what I was doing tonight and said having dinner with a girl (also a model) whos my friend and she knows.

    She said she didnt want me having dinner just the two of us and told me to cancel.

    I told her there was nothing to worry about but I didnt want to upset her and would cancel.

    Have I lowered my value or am I just being nice ?

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    Default Re: In a relationship with Hot Model Girl wont comit on Facebook

    what i think is this, you say shes a model...okay..if she deletes the pictures on her FB of you guys..mostlikely something is up..i actually had an issue with an ex of mine when i was an AFC. she didnt want to commit on facebook but would tell me the same sh1t..that she loves me and blah blah blah. Untill one day a buddy of mine told me she had made plans with a friend of his...i could be wrong..but just like everyone else said. your the prize bro, not her..she know shes hot and if shes giving it up to you...than honestly that just may infact be her game..and from what i read it seems like its getting to you..woman are the root of all evil..DONT GET SUCKED INTO HEr BS EXCUSES...

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    Default Re: In a relationship with Hot Model Girl wont comit on Facebook

    Pictures on FB aren't that important. HOWEVER, make her understand that you are the prize. Don't let her think she's better than you.

    Keep your strong frame and she'll continue to like you even more than she already does.


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