I'm new to the forums. To introduce myself, I'm Dave, going to college (3rd year) in San Luis Obispo, CA. I have had luck with women over the years, but its just that. Luck.
I like to do fun things (dirtbiking, snowboarding, down to try anything), I am good looking/muscular/clean cut/low bodyfat. I have a good outlook on life and I have a good future. There is only one thing holding me back on life, and that is women. I understand the basics of being a PUA, and have tried to implement them throughout my downtown bar experiences.
There is something I am missing in my journey to connect with women. Tonight is a perfect example. I went downtown to meet up with a friend (male), one of his friends (male), and two female friends. We were all having a good time at one of the bars. We went to a different dance bar, the 2 guys and 2 girls started dancing, and I was left to search the club for lone damsels.
I approached a total of four groups of decent looking girls. the first said she was having a girls night out (group of 3, two were dancing with guys, I approached the 3rd one out). I went to the next group, a little bummed but still smiling and having a good time. I said her group had a good energy, and she kinda gave me a weird look and turned around. The third and fourth attempts I kinda half-assed because I was feeling shut down, and obviously nothing good happened. I went out the back of the bar, left my friends, and rode my bike home searching a PUA forum for advice.
I am a fairly quiet person, but enjoy going out of my comfort zone socially. I consider myself very introverted in some ways and pretty extroverted in other ways.
This scenario has happened many times downtown. My theory is that my personality comes off as boring, and girls aren't trying to talk to boring guys. But then again, how could I seem boring approaching a group of girls at a bar, putting my ego on the line?
Maybe it is because I live in a college town, competing with just as good looking guys with more attractive personalities. Or maybe my personality is just effed.
I'm sure some of you have been in my shoes and have overcome the same issue. Any advice would be awesome. Anyone who lives in San Luis Obispo or is passing by and wants to meet up would be awesome. I may or may not be Average, but I am definitely Frustrated. Off to go smoke and pass out. I envy all of you who can attract women with your personalities.