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    Jaz
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    Default Escalating after the opener

    On a night out I am fairly confident at approaching and can open well enough to at least have a brief conversation with a girl, rather than get brushed off straightaway. However, after the opener (opinion opener etc), the conversation invariably wanes into the standard, boring “what do you do”/“where are you from” etc.

    Recently for example, after I opened this girl at the bar, she gave me a kiss on the cheek (this very, very rarely happens to me straight after the opener) as we introduced ourselves and shook hands. This I’m assuming is a good sign and an IOI? If this was a good sign it should have been the perfect opportunity for me to progress and escalate the conversation. Though, unfortunately I wasn’t sure what to say after that and the conversation waned to the standard “what do you do” etc, and then very soon after that she went off to join her friends.

    So how do I prevent these lost opportunities occurring in the future and escalate after the opener to lead to a number or kiss close?

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    Default Re: Escalating after the opener

    I'm guess when she asked what you do, you just told her?

    Don't do that. Be challenging. If you can get the girl to believe for 5 minutes that you train monkeys to fight forestfires or something, you will probably walk away with at least a number.

    Depending on the bar, that girl could get hit on 50 more times before the end of the night, what makes YOU stand out?

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    Default Re: Escalating after the opener

    There are some questions that inevitably come up in every conversation between new acquaintances. "Where are you from?" "what do you do?" etc. It's not a bad thing if these questions are asked but you should have some funny answers ready beforehand. The hotter a girl is the more likely she will press you on the subject. Keep them guessing until they give up asking and realize that you're different.

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    Jaz
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    Default Re: Escalating after the opener

    Thanks for both answers. I will try those tactics next time. Anyone got any more ideas/specifics of what I can actually use?

    I’ve been in this situation for far too long where I can approach but can never close. I need to be in a situation where I can just go approaching all night, and go all out even if that means looking like a fool and getting rejected. I need to break through that barrier. Currently I can’t do that as I’m going out with work colleagues/friends so trying it on with girls in front of them is difficult. What I need to do is go on a PUA workshop where I can actually learn from people and go all out in terms of approaching and escalating.


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