An AFC here and my first few minutes on the site and already writing a post. Here's the deal. I'm 21 years old and have never had any intimate sort of relations with any girl (i.e. not even kissed or held hands).
I'm by no means ugly, or so I'm led to believe my my mums friends and girl friends (vs. girlfriend). I'm athletic, fit, in good shape I reckon as I hit the gym thrice a week, and do yoga twice. I was asked out in high-school a couple of times but I declined as I wasn't particularly interested in them and since then, no one has really expressed an interest in me. I've never been on a "date" until a few weeks ago with a girl I met through an online dating site. Now I didn't explicitly ask her out on a date, but as I payed for the movie and dinner, I reckon my intentions were put forth.
So I ask her Little Miss Rainbow (Brunette, 170cm but wore heels so she was a little taller than me, and then said "Sorry I should have worn my flats", a definite QT though) to meet me 45 mins early just in case she gets lost. We plan to meet at a train station that's sort of nearby, so we can then walk to the theatre. She texts me saying she'll be a 5-10 minutes late. When this doesn't happen, I text her asking "Are you alright? Not lost are you?", to which she responds that she's "stuck in traffic, I'll meet you at the theatre". So after waiting for about 30 minutes in the cold expecting her to be at the train station, I head over to the theatre. I'm a little disgruntled but I'm used to my friends being super late sometimes sop it didn't bother me TOO much.
So I get to the theatre and wait for her at the top of the escalators. She finally arrives, 5 minutes after the start of the feature. She says "Sorry for being late", to which I reply "No problem, I just hope we don't miss anything". ---NOTE: This is my first "date" ever--- I walk ahead of her and sort of forget to hold the door for her, which I realize immediately after I get into the theatre *I'm thinking, fark well now she thinks I don't have any manners/am not chivalrous | Am I over-thinking or analyzing this?* We watch the movie, which was excellent, and head to dinner.
Now we get some time to actually start talking and finding out a little bit more about each other. We discuss the movie, where we're from etc and have a few laughs, in fact, the whole 10 hours we spent together, I presume she was having quite a bit of fun because we would just sorta crack each other up effortlessly, even silly things sometimes *an IOI I believe?*. ---NOTE: The whole night, there was no kino, not from her, or myself. Is this bad? I sort of get into my head about kino and am too nervous/scared to just randomly touch her lightly on the arm or something---
After dinner, I'm don't really know where to go so I ask her where she wants to go, or what she wants to do. She just says "It's up to you". I tell her I was thinking about checking out a super moon (which is larger and brighter than usual) at the local planetarium. I quickly add that "It's still too bright now, so perhaps later". So we sort of wander around downtown aimlessly chit chatting away for about 20 minutes. We finally end up at Starbucks and sit and continue to talk non-stop for a good 15 minutes or so. ---NOTE: I think I show that I'm a little non-ALPHA because I seemed a little unsure where and what to do while we were wandering about, and whenever I asked her, she replied "It's up to you". It felt like a test...---
So now it's finally dark enough we head over to the planetarium. There's a good crowd there so we wait in line for about 30 minutes to look through the telescope. *There ARE periods where we don't talk for a minute or two in the darkness and agree that we can both check our phones for texts/missed calls- is this bad? Or is it okay to get a break and a bit of silence?* It's kinda cool cause we got to see Saturn and it's rings, as well as Venus and Mars. The main feature, the super moon hasn't risen above the treeline yet. I say "Do you want to stay or wanna go?" because the telescope was going to close in 45 minutes. Naturally she said "It's up to you". I say "Well I think it'll be pretty dope" so we stand in line and wait for about 45 minutes, only for the people to tell us we need to leave because it's "Time up". I try to show some assertiveness by going back to the people and asking them whether or not "we could just take a really quick peek", but I get shut down.