Hey guys! I've following this forum for awhile - getting specific advice for 'special occasions' =P And first of all I wanna say thanks for your wonderful forum: filled with facts; theories; and observations readily available to anyone and all! =D
But on this particular occasion, my use of the search function has proven unsatisfying, and I throw myself on the floor before your wisdom!
2 years ago, I had a 6-month long fling with 'Daisy' (Her name's not Daisy :P). Was a very fun time for both of us, because we clicked the first party we met and spent some 'quality time' together at least once a week with never any bumps or hiccups! I was playing it quite sporadic and distant back then, never following any set pattern of texting/planning dates and well it was very effective as far as a fling is concerned (she was very specific to me a few times about recently getting out of a relationship and 'hating' bfs. later I would find this to be false) lol.
One day we crossed paths without arranging to meet up, and after a short exchange: Daisy walked on away from me, at which point I thought - "i aint running after no b1t3h xD" and continued about my business, and well guys - that was it. I didnt want to make the next move because I felt the ball was very much in her court, and we never heard from eachother again!
Past 2 years? Yeah they been pretty good! I must stress that I was not 'pining' for Daisy (lest this be a deluded case of oneitis =P), I did however feel unsatisfied with how something so nice vanished like a fart in the wind!
Fast forward to 1 week ago. Me and my housemate went out for a female friend's birthday where for the first time in 2 years... I saw 'Daisy' =D! I said hello and it was -very- awkward (understandable imho :P). Didn't want to push it too quickly - we all had arranged to go to a club later that night so I was just doing my very best to just play the party cool (thanks to you guys!). Later, when we went to the club - me and my housemate got knocked back! Not for anything uncouth imho - we speculated the club might been a bit over male populated, but we could be wrong! I just walked away after ensuring the birthday girl could get in xD (thoughts on that?)
So where's this going you ask :P? Well I sit here after a very unusual night involving our beloved 'Daisy' . Her sister (very good friends with my housemate) rang at about midnight inviting herself and Daisy round last night. After playing somewhat of a waiting game, me and Daisy were left alone in my house - my long awaited fantasy was only a staircase away :P
After some sly conversation on my part, we came up to my room to browse some funny videos online that we were talking about - however, right before entering my room she stated along the lines of, "it's been 2 years, I don't want you to get the wrong idea". (Alarm bells! Ding ding! :/) As we sit very comfortable in my bed, she made kino very difficult and on many occasions said she wanted to wake up her sister and go home. Rather than play along and ask her to stay - I just grabbed my phone and asked for her number so we could do it again sometime.
Then it came - "I don't think that's a good idea, I've had a bf for a year and a half and I live with him" (she's 19, he's 24, I'm 21). At that point I felt I didn't have much to lose so I just told Daisy about how she vanished completely and how disappointing I felt the entire situation to be! :$ She told me how (2 years ago) she needed/wanted someone there for her, but I never asked her to go steady and was always playing games wit her. After some brief awkwardness, we just sparked a conversation up again and had a laugh. She never woke her sister up, and ended up sleeping in my bed from 6am-ish to noon (when her sister came up to find her lol). We had great mutual fun hanging out again and chatting, and some of the night even involved spooning (greatly adding to the confusion =P).
What are your thoughts on this guys?
Did what occur last night show any signs of her 'entertaining the idea'? Or is she playing me like a fiddle and planned the whole thing? Is my situation worth investment? Should I have used the 'bf destroyer technique'? And most importantly (for me)...am I god d4mn fool for not tearing that a55 up and asking for numbers later?
So here I stand before you guys. May the help provided here help AFCs and PUAs alike in climbing the steps on the way to happiness
Thanks for reading guys - I look forward to your feedback