OK so I have had a "crush" on this girl for 4 semesters already. I think its worth noting that we were "friends" since the very first semester I met her. I have always suspected she liked me back,however, I just did not have the confidence to ask her out on a date.Long story short, as of lately I have been getting a number of IOI's from her. So much to the point where I actually puckered up the courage and asked her out on a date. This is where I might have farked things up. Ok, so this was the date, I planned on teaching her now to cook real Italian pasta, so we made meatballs together, baked the sausages together, and made the homemade sauce together. The whole time we had conversation, Im not the kind of guy that lets an awkward moment happen. But, I am the type of guy who is too much of a farking pussy to make the first move. The whole time I was brainstorming on how to make her comfortable,and it wasn't until after the date that I realized "Hey dumbass! she is already comfortable" I mean what the hell was I thinking, Ive know the girl for almost 2 years, she is always slapping my ass, and making pysical contact with me, all I had to do was set the mood. Btw, if you are wondering the food was fantastic. Now this is where my chances of ever even having another chance with this woman really scares me, at the end of the evening, as I walked her back to her car, she wanted to say bye by giving me a high five. Like wtf? I leaned in for a hug, and I got it, however, it wasn't like the first hug I got from her. the first hug was tight and affectionate, this hug was just plain farking awkward. Somewhere In this date I made her feel uncomfortable, either that, or she was nervous, which I doubt (no reasons really)
Here are the things that actually went well:
Food was great
-conversation was going on the whole time
-She dressed to impress (freshly pressed hair etc)
-My roommate confirmed that there was perfume in her purse
-I think its also worth noting that she had just got off of work so the fact that she looked so good shows extra effort
-I did not hug her when we greeted (it was kinda weird, I was trying to let her in but she was already in, plus she showed up an hour early which really threw me off my GP)
-Felt no spark the whole date, usually when I'm around her I wanna kiss her. But not this time.
-she went for a handshake on departure
Ok so, i had told myself that if she doesn't text me first after the date then I farked up and I was gonna force myself to move on. However, she did, indeed text me after, but it was question pertaining to homework.
Ok fellas, so what should i do? how can I fix this horrible first date? what moves should i have made and what moves should I make if i do get a second chance at her? I was thinking of writing her a letter letting her know how I feel so that if the feeling is mutual there will be no excuse for bitching out of making a move. how does that idea sound. Again, this is woman I would love to wife-up and make my girlfriend. just not some girl I wanna smash occasionally.