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    Default am i being selfish, childish, dumb?

    Went AFC for a minute while listening to love songs...started reminiscing on the good times i had with my babies mama before everything went to sh1t...

    I texted her asking her if we could make things work out...that i wanted to be a family again...and that what ever happened between the time we were broken up doesnt matter...

    she said she would like that, but that she hooked up with someone while we were broken up and that she wouldnt feel right knowing that..

    i told her i didnt care. that a fresh start ment a fresh start, forget and forgive...well a few minutes into the texting after that. it started to stir in my head...the fact that someone else may have been inside what once was mine and gave birth to my kid...i told her nvm that i couldnt be with her knowing that...

    am i being selfish, childish, or just stupid...we've been broken up for 4 months...i guess its just she always told me she was home with our kid...but now knowing this, it makes me think just how true that really is...

    Im stuck here guys...ive been over this girl, but since shes told me that. its brought back some old feelings and memories i once had...any advice?
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    Default Re: am i being selfish, childish, dumb?

    Hey Gambet,

    You can't blame her for what she did when you weren't together, whether it be getting with other guys or lying. That goes both ways too so she can't blame you. If you're going to start fresh you have to do just that and forgive everything that happened. I know the thought of her with another guy is shitty, but she feels the same way about you with another girl. It's only natural to get upset.

    If you two decide to get back together you should make clear expectations though to avoid frequent conflicts.

    Hope this helps. Kind of a rough topic.
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    Default Re: am i being selfish, childish, dumb?

    You're being sentimental. If you really want her back, why let her go in the first place? When your sentimental and jealous feelings die down in a few months will you still continue to commit or want to be free again?

    Out of all the people I know who divorced none ever got back together again properly and much time was wasted caught in between not wanting to let go and trying to move on. In almost all cases they married the wrong person. The problem is it does matter what happened while you broke up and you can never change that. It will always be there like a knot in a tree. Really your thoughts should be on being a father to your kid. Good luck

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    Default Re: am i being selfish, childish, dumb?

    ya the both of you have good points...I'ma go with dragon and just do what i have to for my kid...@ onethousand, yeah im being a hypocrite i know i havent been all that innocent...good sh1t guys...thanks
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