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    Default advice needed to get over approaching

    i think i have a problem with approaching. for instance, there's been multiple times where I've gotten good indications that a girl wants me to approach, but i just don't do it. i don't think its approach anxiety, because I'm comfortable around people. but i just never end up doing it. I'm thinking it may be because i find myself lost in thought throughout the day, or I'm focused on so many other things, that i almost find no reason to approach. am i chickening out??

    This only bothers me because there's this hb9 at my work that has just recently paid attention to me, and i feel like ill end up choking or blowing my chance at it.i think i might put the vagina at the pedestal at times, and discourages me. this occasionally happens to me where I'm given an opportunity to approach but i just over look it, and this is something i definitely would like to change about myself.

    Any ideas or suggestions would be very helpful, i think this is one of the major problems i deal with when it comes to finding a woman to have relations with

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    Default Re: advice needed

    Hey palnajar3,

    Sounds like approach anxiety to me bro'. So why don't you make the move? You'll always regret not approaching more than any outcome after the approach, but you gotta put one foot in front of the other man or nothing is going to happen.

    Let's frame the fear after the approach as a question: Why do you think you'll choke after the approach? How can you stop yourself from choking after the approach? Figure it out and go speak to the HB9, dude.

    Hope this helps
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    Default Re: advice needed

    deffinately rs5096 is right and i'd like to add that thinking of an inspirational line or quote will help. stuff like 'there is no such thing as failure only feedback', 'it is the ones who are most willing to face their fears that become champions' and finally my two favorites are my signature
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

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    Default Re: advice needed to get over approaching

    so i took your guys advice on the situation and i figured i would just give approaching a try. my whole thing is i just have an idea in my head where i have a feeling ill say something stupid. i think thats the entire reason why i think ill choke, and why i don't approach. but you guys are both right, if i don't do it now ill never end up doing it later.

    its been a week since I've been on but i definitely used that time to try and work on my AA, so i did. i ended up going out with a friend just expecting a relaxing night and just ended up approaching a hb at the bar and got her number. easy as that. it was a really good feeling pulling that number, thanks for your help fellas


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