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    A_P_B is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Your approach to 'who contact's first'

    In a nutshell, i have been on 5 dates with this girl and for around a week it's been me texting her asking about her day and general conversation ( later in the evening, not at 9am in the morning like a freak, so she has time to contact me first )

    It's starting to piss me off, so i have decieded to just stop texting and let HER contact me, if a girl likes you, she will surely get in touch.

    Do you guys like being contacted and a girl showing interest? Personally i like it, it shows they like me and WANT to speak to me.

    Please discuss

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    Default Re: Your approach to 'who contact's first'

    Speaking from personal experience, your overthinking it. If i've learned anything on this forum its that you should limit your text conversation with her unless your planning on it leading to the next date. Try to limit your text conversations to 1-3 conversations in between each date.

    It's completely fine if she doesn't text you, girls over think texting a guy first 10x more than we as males do. As a man you need to be comfortable texting her first, and taking the initiative to lead the direction of the relationship. I'd say wait a day or two before texting her and then in your next conversation plan the next meetup.

    Goodluck!

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    Default Re: Your approach to 'who contact's first'

    5 dates? Mate you should be in a LTR or shagging her brains out instead of worrying about texts. I cannot understand why so many guys let texts and messages get in their way or get them down.

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    Default Re: Your approach to 'who contact's first'

    ^True. By date 5 you should have some serious groundwork in place. If she's been down for 5 dates but still replying to your texts, she's probably waiting and hoping to God you make a move and fast. Sounds like an extremely patient girl if you ask me.

    Jus has a point, but if it's a continual problem don't put up with it.

    Discuss: Instead of pretending to be too busy to not text her first, actually be too busy too text her first. Don't pretend that you're mind isn't on her; be so important that you don't have time to think about her.
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    Default Re: Your approach to 'who contact's first'

    Cheers fellas.

    Had a feeling that the 5 dates would get you talking, I will point out that we have been out in a social setting for 4 of them. Only 1 has been inside my place where we did sexual stuff but not sex YET. Groundwork and platforms have been made on every date.

    I guess i am overthinking when she doesn't text me first - This aint because I'm all whipped, i couldn't care less if she never text me again ( even though she will ) I just see it as respect and a 2 way street. Not just her letting me contact her first every time.


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