I realise that there are many structures of pua out there - i was just wondering what one you think might work for me best - based on what i say about myself next... (i am from london, uk and 29 years old)
1) I am extreamlly shy - I have just started the 'fake it till you make it' on confidence - felt i overdid it a lot today and came off like a jerk - didnt interact with any girls or anything - this was on purpose. - its defo gonna take some calibration.
2) I feel i could at least walk up to a girl now and open - I will be practicing this once i have calibrated the fake it till i make it thing.
3) once i have opened - thats the problem - i feel like i could keep a conversation going if she gives me things to work with - that i could take the nouns out of and use - but what if she doesnt? how do i transition from - oh hi - to more convo without her giving me things to talk about - i cant just randomlly go off into something totaly unrelated can i? - im sure i need a transistion here.
4) if it was to go into silence - or she said something bad about me etc - i am instantlly going to go into AFC mode - even just imagining that situation - and im freezing up and sweating right now! - how can i gracefully recover from that or gracefully leave if i want to - without loosing face?
As you can see im pretty new here - but i have decided i am going to embrace and learn 100% all i can about this stuff - and ive decided i will keep it up.
i dont want you all to think i know nothing tho - I know how to be alpha (just a matter of practiting it) - but around other guys my alpha goes out the window - esp if they are more aggressive / bigger build than me - i have a massive fear of violence - and am worried anything i do that isnt 'nice' may risk violence from them - or slight pushing etc to show their dominence.
I am also extreamlly small build - so there would be no way of me pushing them back and even moving them - and that could lead to a fight - which is a total phobia.
Even AMOGing leaves me thinking fearful thoughts - i annoy them - they hit me? - that cant happen.
I have also decided to re-invent my dress sense - from hoodies etc - to: Black jeans (nice pair tho) - black shirt - and a nice pair of black shoes (too much black here?) - it was thanks to this forum i decided on those - and i can see my self in it - im buying this monday
If anyone could take the time to answer these inital questions i have I would be forever greatful.
Thank you for your valuble time.