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    Exclamation Friend of mine broke up with boyfriend now shes hanging out more...

    I have this friend and she broke up with her boyfriend. She's hanging out with me a lot more but she keeps talking about him; all the good and bad things. She tells me that she misses him and I know he totally has her on the hook. I tried making him seem like a nice Guy that's confused and insecure, but I don't think its working. Any tips/advice gentlemen?

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    Default Re: Friend of mine broke up with boyfriend now shes hanging out more...

    Quote Originally Posted by saxattack View Post
    I have this friend and she broke up with her boyfriend. She's hanging out with me a lot more but she keeps talking about him; all the good and bad things. She tells me that she misses him and I know he totally has her on the hook. I tried making him seem like a nice Guy that's confused and insecure, but I don't think its working. Any tips/advice gentlemen?
    "Hon, I understand how ya feel about the guy, but honestly I'm sick of hearing your constant sh1t about him. Instead of talking about him, why don't we get it on with some good rebound sex? I guarantee you that you won't be thinking about him afterward."

    if she says "We're just friends" Then respond:

    "Well that's cool, but I'm not in a friendly mood right now I guess. I'm going to go find a woman who wants to have great sex. Talk to ya later"

    If you want to make a friend into a farkbuddy/gf/whatever you have to be willing to end the friendship completely. Yes, some will get pissed at the "no sex, no friendship" stand and try to hurt your feelings about it. You simply have to shrug it off and move on.

    You have to make her understand, in open and crass terms, that friendship between males and females isn't free and that you tolerated her friendship only out of respect for her being in a relationship and now she needs to either step up to the plate or get gone.

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    Default Re: Friend of mine broke up with boyfriend now shes hanging out more...

    Quote Originally Posted by SiliconMagician View Post
    "Hon, I understand how ya feel about the guy, but honestly I'm sick of hearing your constant sh1t about him. Instead of talking about him, why don't we get it on with some good rebound sex? I guarantee you that you won't be thinking about him afterward."

    if she says "We're just friends" Then respond:

    "Well that's cool, but I'm not in a friendly mood right now I guess. I'm going to go find a woman who wants to have great sex. Talk to ya later"

    If you want to make a friend into a farkbuddy/gf/whatever you have to be willing to end the friendship completely. Yes, some will get pissed at the "no sex, no friendship" stand and try to hurt your feelings about it. You simply have to shrug it off and move on.

    You have to make her understand, in open and crass terms, that friendship between males and females isn't free and that you tolerated her friendship only out of respect for her being in a relationship and now she needs to either step up to the plate or get gone.
    This ^ 100%. It's all or nothing - you have to cut her down hard and I personally could not stand to listen to girl yap on about her ex.

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    Default Re: Friend of mine broke up with boyfriend now shes hanging out more...

    Thanks for the quick responses. I was just going to kiss her and if she said something about it in a negative way then I would reply, "well it shut you up." But your advice is way better, thanks again!

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    Default Re: Friend of mine broke up with boyfriend now shes hanging out more...

    Quote Originally Posted by saxattack View Post
    Thanks for the quick responses. I was just going to kiss her and if she said something about it in a negative way then I would reply, "well it shut you up." But your advice is way better, thanks again!
    Lol actually that isn't bad! I tend to lay things out in the open myself but you gotta do what's congruent with your style.

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    Default Re: Friend of mine broke up with boyfriend now shes hanging out more...

    ^ Being direct is the best. Why keep how you feel inside. Pick up a copy of Difficult Conversation...good book to read.


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