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    Default Re: Really Need Help on Friend Situation

    If she does want you to ask then it's all the more reason not to ask. She will wonder why you're being so cool and that will raise the tension. Then she'll wonder what you wanted to tell her and may regret not seeing you this past weekend. Then just flirt with her. Mystery and intrigue are GOOD things that will drive her towards you. You may have to decide that getting the answers from her may not necessarily make things better. Might have to just let it go for now.

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    Default Re: Really Need Help on Friend Situation

    So you think it would be wise to wait until Thursday? It's hard for me to refer back to what I usually do because the last few times she's been home, she tried to hang out with me so she was the one kinda bitching at me that I couldn't hang out.

    Tomorrow I'm busy so I doubt I'll have time to contact her anyway so it's either today or Thursday. What do you think and why?

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    Default Re: Really Need Help on Friend Situation

    Another thing I should add, in regards to the buyers remorse that I didn't add earlier; she hasn't actually seen me since January or so. We've talked since then obviously but no contact at all since then. Last time she saw me I was admittedly a lot heavier than I am now. I was a chubby dude lol and since lost like 30 pounds and have been getting a lot of compliments lately. Hopefully that plays into the buyers remorse and lessens it next time she sees me as I definitely look/feel better than I ever have in the time that I've been friends with her. If you buy a car instinctively you may feel guilty initially, but if it looks/drives better than you ever expected, the remorse/guilt has to somewhat diminish right?

    Damn man, girls really do invade ALL of your thoughts haha.

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    Default Re: Really Need Help on Friend Situation

    Just another update:

    We usually speak on Facebook chat. She was on it earlier while I was and hasn't said anything to me. I decided not to say anything to her either as I think it's better to let her confuse herself with questions as to why while I stick with the original plan for Thursday.

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    Default Re: Really Need Help on Friend Situation

    The car reference you made there is an actualy term for that concept. It's called Backwards Rationalization. And it works just like how you said. Do you know for sure the next time she will be in the area?

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    Default Re: Really Need Help on Friend Situation

    Not the exact time, but it's either in 3 weeks or a month from now.

    A few other things:

    What's the "correct" way to respond if she says:

    1. I just want to be friends.
    2. I wanna make this work
    3. she just continues to act cold and doesn't take well to me talking to her when I do Thursday.


    What would you do in those situations?

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    Default Re: Really Need Help on Friend Situation

    I could tell you what I would do, but just understand that this is based on general knowledge and what little I know about your friendship with her.
    1.If she say's she just wants to be friends then just say "ok". Thats it. And then you escalate regardless.
    2. If she says she wants to make a relationship work then it seems pretty self explanatory since she is very receptive to the idea.
    3. I doubt she will act cold but if she does then just keep it light and ask her whats up her butt. If she opens up about her feelings about you again then just do what Charlie Harper did and say "I understand" ( He said this about 30 times to is bros ex-wife and it gave her the impression he was actually listening to her.) Of course it was embellished and you shouldn't say it back to back the way he did but you get the idea. Just let her do the talking.
    The last thing I will say is that I'm giving you the swiss army knife but if you really want solid answers to come up with on the fly then I recommend understanding how women work. What is your experience with pickup?

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    Default Re: Really Need Help on Friend Situation

    I don't have much. Dated a few girls here and there but nothing super serious nor was I ever really looking for something very serious. I always read up on PUA tactics, which is why I came back to this forum for help on this situation. I know the basic things but this has been a learning experience as well.

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    Default Re: Really Need Help on Friend Situation

    Ok well I will PM you with some things.


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