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    hey guys theres this really cute girl that goes to a pool i belong too. Apparently i went to highschool with her but shes a grade behind me and my highschool was so big i never saw her. Also my parents know her parents. I dont know if that information helps or not but im just not sure how to approach her at the pool especially if shes laying there tanning or something on the chairs or just sitting there or if shes with friends or something. Do i put my towel on a chair close to her or something?

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    Default Re: approaching a girl at the pool

    Seems like you just gave your own opening to yourself. You already have ties that she is unaware of so feel free to use it. Opening is just that....opening. It doesn't build attraction, it doesnt get a number and it surely doesn't get them into bed. All it does it open up the channels for communication. So don't focus so much on the approach other than your body language (if you're conveying more interest than her). Focus more on flirting and building attraction. Throw in some teasing and disqualifiers based on her behaviour towards you and go from there. Hope this helps. Good luck

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    Default Re: approaching a girl at the pool

    so basically just walk up and introduce myself or tell her she look familiar?

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    Default Re: approaching a girl at the pool

    You can do that or any other type of opener. If you are unsure just try to get as much of a reading from her as you can. If you notice she's checking you out then go in and introduce yourself and say she looks familiar. If she seems uninterested then come in alittle indirect then go from there. It's easy to get trapped in your own head without taking the woman and what she's doing into account.

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    Default Re: approaching a girl at the pool

    Also I will add, no matter how you approach she will most likely think you are trying to hit on her. No matter how platonic or innocent the approach. This is unavoidable. To calibrate you have to use disqualifiers to confuse her of your original intention which makes her receptive to being hit on later in the interaction. Just use your best judgement.

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    Default Re: approaching a girl at the pool

    Especially at a pool and if she's in a cute swimsuit. You could open directly mentioning your parents connection early on or bring it up later in a surprise way as if you had no idea she was that girl - it adds a bit of fate or destiny to the conversation. If you know how your parents know each other I'm sure you can work out a way to bring it up and that will be a good disqualifier.

    If she's in a sexy bikini try not to stare at her body - act like it's no big deal to be around semi clad gorgeous women.

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Also I will add, no matter how you approach she will most likely think you are trying to hit on her. No matter how platonic or innocent the approach. This is unavoidable. To calibrate you have to use disqualifiers to confuse her of your original intention which makes her receptive to being hit on later in the interaction. Just use your best judgement.

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    Default Re: approaching a girl at the pool

    Thanks guy, so do u think I should put my towel near her or just approach as if it any other situation?

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    Default Re: approaching a girl at the pool

    Personally, I would just walk up beside her, tell her she looks familiar and after you get her last name throw in that your parents know each other and its a small world. Then again, I've noticed it depends on your region. Around my area girls tend to be a lot simpler.

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    Default Re: approaching a girl at the pool

    What Blistex said was good - it invisioned something short, confident and with the surname qualifier thrown onto the number/name close. That sounds pretty good, don't 'throw down your towel' - maybe talk to her first and assume that by your 'superior quantum conversational skills and family umbilical ties you will be asked to accompany her in coitus within short duration'.


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