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    Default Can I get this girl back?

    We met at the 18th birthday party of our friend. (I knew about her only on Facebook, but I never added her to friends or something, I just asked some of my friends about her, and everyone said that there are like 30 guys wanting to be with her but she had no boyfriend ever.) Anyways, she and two of her friends approached mine and friends table on birthday. We danced, laughed, talked, had fun generally. After the party we split up and I stayed with her for about 2 hours, we kissed and so...After that party, we met up only 2 times for about 3-4 hours.

    We didn't see each other for about a week because she said she was busy. After 4 days I asked her again if she was free on Sunday (when I asked her it was Thursday) and she said that she will try her best. Day after ( Friday) we messaged and she said that she can not make it on Sunday. Later that day she called me and asked me if I could come that day (Friday) so we could have fun...which I couldn't because I already arranged something with friend of mine. On Sunday we broke up...this is something like what she said:"I have to talk to you. You see that I am busy lately and I never have time to see you, I don't want to do this to you anymore, my grades are really bad and I have to study a lot, It is a really bad situation, I don't know what to say..."

    I don't know what to do, should I wait for her school to finish and try again or she just said in a nice way that she is not interested? (I know 100% is true from my female friends that she has 4 really bad grades that she has to fix and when they call her out, she is always busy). I'm the first guy she went out with...she called me back on that Friday to go out with me...I'm confused, a lot. Her school ends in 4 weeks.

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    Default Re: Can I get this girl back?

    It's not unheard of for a woman to ACTUALLY put a pause on her love life for a bit so she can work. But it still plays a large part on you. Attraction/tension is like a flame, if it is not fed it will just burn out and becomes more difficult to light back up. You both are too busy for each other so essentially there is TOO much challenge here instead of just enough to keep each other interested. If you are too busy then most of your game will have to be phone game. There is hardly ever an actual time when a woman is too busy to respond to a text within a span of a week. So my suggestion is to learn text game and go from there.

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    Default Re: Can I get this girl back?

    Every time I texted her, she responded right away. She always asked how I was, what I'm doing, sent me smiley faces and so...

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    Default Re: Can I get this girl back?

    That's good then that you have that line of communication. I don't how your texting would go, but it may have NOT been enough to keep the flame going. Did you guys talk mostly about sex or getting to know each other or perhaps mostly teasing?
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    Default Re: Can I get this girl back?

    Be more aggressive and eventually get her back into the risk taking spirit of the party you got together. Her grades are failing? Help her. School ends in 4 weeks? You need to position yourself as the guy who is content when she needs her study time, someone she will have fun with AND take her to all the cool parties. See, in her mind, you could be 'just a guy she kissed at the party'. People let their hair down at parties, they experiment. People don't want to be tied down end of school. If you don't chase her aggressively to show you have more novelty, she will blossom and other guys will get her in a more involved way. She wants to see you Friday. She wants to see you. Fuse together, don't confuse apart.

    She's only 18, not head on into a career yet, she is not too busy to take a break with you. Couldn't match schedules? So what, that's life and should have given her more time to study. Her grades are important but that is not the reason she is 'breaking off'. She doesnt know what to say because she doesn't know what she wants. She's inexperienced. I would provide her direction, I would tell her it's nonsense about breaking up, your not asking for her hand in marriage and to get herself over to your place so you can cram and hang out. If you can't do that, keep YOU in her mind with sharp, infrequent texts, like late night 'goodnights' and the odd kinky thought. Her grades are ultimately a long term result of her own academic effort and nothing to do with the last few weeks you have spent together. Try not to be too needy, a bother or soppy but fun, safe and providing - you are also young and just want to enjoy life so don't forget all the other summer babes.

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    Default Re: Can I get this girl back?

    I will try being more aggressive...I don't worry much about other girls, I got 7 girls chasing me currently, 3 of them are 8/10...but I don't know why every time I chase the girl, I lose it...

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    Default Re: Can I get this girl back?

    Okay, I have called her and asked her to meet any day that she is available since I currently am not too employed. She said that she will call me as soon as she can. So what should I tell her? I was thinking about telling her exactly what you have told me.

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    Default Re: Can I get this girl back?

    Well you need to direct it - you could have said meet me here, this time, this place and hounded her until something is locked in. Being aggressive is being persistent. Something quick and easy so it's an easy commitment. Then take it straight back to kino. As it stands, on top of her study she now has to organise all these thoughts, schedules and get back to you in a way. Be the provider and masterplan your goals. Make it easy for her. What about Friday? Just tell her 'meet me friday, here, they have great healthy food and good coffee' and don't take no for an answer. Don't take study as an acceptable answer because she needs to eat and if she was REALLY studying all that time she will already be superconfident she's going to do well and will be needing someone like you to at least discuss or bounce around what she's been studying. In the meantime spend your time getting a job (money to impress girls and party out the summer) instead of worrying about her.


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