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    Default help with social butterfly! dealing with the competition

    First off, a bit about myself. Long time reader, first time poster. I activly practice pandora's box and have found it to be one of the most useful tools that i have ever found. honestly has changed my outlook on women and life in general.
    That being said. Im currently speaking with a social butterfly. So this girl is very sexy and always surrounded by a group of guys. which, after the first few times kicking it.. i removed myself from.
    There is also one other guy i notice that she is close to, I didnt see him as a threat, but more of the "close friend".This guy is also an acquaintance of mine and somewhat of a friend.
    I did notice they were a bit closer than she and I, but disregarded it and seen him more as one of her "puppets" as i like to say. and he did not seem to separate himself from her group of puppets by any noticeable act besides him having all the time in the world to hang out (he works like 15hrs a week, where as i work 40 and have time separated for other women in my life)

    so i see her right now about 1-2 times a week.
    When we are alone, we hook up (make out and touch, but not yet bang).

    We were supposed to hang out last night, she got in a small accident, while waiting for her to get everything taken care of I fell asleep.

    I woke up to missing calls and txts saying sorry for taking long and didnt pay too much mind figure i'd call her a bit after work and build anticipation... or wehatever i was thinking (shes quite the lagger, and i play hard to get.)

    so i log onto facebook, notice that likes a whole bunch of my pictures and posts outa nowhere (not like her).. and then i go to the "friends" page and see that his status has changed to "In a relationship" with her.Hers hasnt changed.

    I hit her up about an hr later to re-schedule out time for tonight, shes down.
    She is also though, leaving lovey dovey messages on his wall.

    I'll be avoiding the topic for now. Here are the problems.

    I feel like a d1ck, cuz this dude and I are friend/acquaintances...some what
    I still want to bang her, but now have a jealousy problem (not cuz he is with her, but maybe cuz he banged her first...im guessing).
    and lastly. where does this go from here?

    I dont want to date her, but i want to be the main squeeze (yes, i guess that is a bit self centered)

    any suggestions?

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    Default Re: help with social butterfly! dealing with the competition

    bump! any help would be appreciated!

    since this post ive decided to try and make her chase me, ive lagged it on her 2 dates in a row. and that seems to make her want me more. too early to tell tho.

    shes now making up little dramas to get my attention, such as relapsing into her meth usage and texting me saying she relapsed (she never even had a real problem, she does it for attention.. i know this because I have actually had a problem with this drug for 8years)

    still, shes with this other dude. any help is appreciated!

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    Default Re: help with social butterfly! dealing with the competition

    Well you are the text/FB buddy and your aquiantence the fark buddy. Yes sadly he got there first. I tell you social butterflies can often be a real pain in the neck, even as a casual partner. I guess you have to weigh up how important your aquaintence is to you, whether you want to go where he's been before you and either destroy him out of the picture, making a more aggressive physical move or wait around. If she's chasing you that's good but she needs to be chasing your d!ck and not your FB pictures. Playing hard to get is great with a single chick but if she's in a relationship with someone she's comfortable posting lovey dovey stuff about, you may have to step up and get what you want more assertively. You want her chasing you physically. She could be writing unusually to your FB because she now sees you as a 'friend' and can be more open (easily mistaken for chasing you), or she may be subtly telling you she does indeed want you more. Hope it works out for ya.

    Billions of women out there - I don't know why everyone is so obsessed with ex's and girls with boyfriends here!! Always have a few in the pipeline.

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    Default Re: help with social butterfly! dealing with the competition

    I blew her off again tonight. im gona try being a lot more physically dominant next time. thanks!

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    Default Re: help with social butterfly! dealing with the competition

    bump! thanks for the help. i really appreciate it

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    Default Re: help with social butterfly! dealing with the competition

    She might just be fark buddies with the other guy. You could try to see how far she'll take things if you push on, but only if you don't care about the other guy. You could just check it verbally - ask her if he's her exclusive boyfriend.

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    Default Re: help with social butterfly! dealing with the competition

    thanks man! i think im just gona truck along. see what happens


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