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    Default How do you get inner game? my identity

    Hey Guys,

    Im pretty sure my weakness is my inner game. I still DON"T GET playing the field as oppose to dating one girl. I want to become a pua so I can have hot women want me and become attached to me...but still convinced Id be happier in a LTR with a hot girl.

    Anyways, my personality sucks. I still dont understand what attracts women. I don't have much I want to talk about with them, just want to get my rocks off. (The girls i usually pick up are girls from clubs)

    My identity is that of a manly guy. I like working out, beer, fishing...guy things. I enjoy being somewhat of a bully...1).how can my personality be compatible with women??

    Ive been doing a cute 21 yr old lately, but the only way I got her to fark was agreeing to be her boyfriend...I do not feel like a player, I feel like a guy just trying to get laid and hitting or missing....i need a new identity and don't know how to make my hobbies which make me who I am, compatible with women. Am I thinking too deep? I just feel this way and think my inner game is my problem.

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    Default Re: How do you get inner game? my identity

    1. "My personality sucks". Lose that attitude immediately. Be the guy people want to be around. Positive energy - believe you're somebody and others will too.

    2. You like working out, beer, fishing... cool. But what do you really like? Maybe you need to find your passion. What's your dream? If you died tomorrow what would you regret not doing the most? If you can't answer this question you have some soul searching to do.

    And you're definitely overthinking it. Find your passion. But then live in the moment. The "real you" is the guy living in the moment, he comes out when all that inner dialogue goes away. At some point you'll find that all previous conceptions of yourself - I'm manly, I like beer, etc. - they're just a shallow construction of your mind. If you didn't like beer would you really be a different soul? Live in the moment and you will know the true you.

    And don't change for girls. Change because you want to be a better man.

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    Default Re: How do you get inner game? my identity

    Watch Fight Club.

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    Default Re: How do you get inner game? my identity

    why watch fight club? and I think im just going to be myself, it cant be this difficult.

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    Default Re: How do you get inner game? my identity

    Just being yourself is an excuse not to become your best self.

    "It's only after we've lost everything that we are free to do anything."

    Who would you be if you lost everythng? If you were truly free to reconstruct yourself. Who would you make youself? Who would you become? Now do it. No bullshit. No excuses. Start now.
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    Default Re: How do you get inner game? my identity

    Sonny, I don't have a passion.

    I really don't. If I died tommorow, Id only regret not really living...things like enjoying company of people and feeling for them when they say certain things, or making more memories in the outdoors with people. Im cursed with moodiness and am comfortable with being a loner.

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    Default Re: How do you get inner game? my identity

    I need farking help with my convo skills and my confidence is usually because I just want to get the girl in bed...I don't really enjoy the work doing it. Id like more friends that are girls to hang out with and fark when we both feel like it.

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    Default Re: How do you get inner game? my identity

    Im really just defined by my work. Im pretty cocky and mean spirited. Im pretty much like billy bob thorton from "bad Santa" except Im not an alcoholic.

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    Post Re: How do you get inner game? my identity

    Most guys, Especially ones like yourself, seem to convince themselves from making any changes.

    Insanity: To do the same thing over and over and expect a different result.

    If you expect to be the same person you were as an AFC and not change a thing about yourself and personality...

    but your last couple post suggest you are ok with just being you and not getting into and PUA ways.

    you enjoy being a loner

    you don't want to do the work to get girls.


    So I don't get with you are looking for....

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    Default Re: How do you get inner game? my identity

    A man, like you, who betters himself is a man destined to better the world. I believe in you.

    I present you with three challenges, sir.

    1. Find and listen to David Deangelo's "On Being a Man" This hour-and-a-half of audio changed my life forever for the better. It's worth your time, trust me.

    2. Tell and embarrassing story. Most guys (boys, I should say) try to impress people by bragging or boasting. Don't do what most boys do. Be a man.
    Next time you are in the field or with friends, or wherever it is you practice game, regale everyone with a (funny) tale of one of your epic failures. Use details! Speak slow. Use Sights, smells, feelings to draw people in. Be comfortable commanding people's attention. Doing this will A. practice conversational skills B. advertise your winning personality and C. Cure your inner ailments. I like to tell one about how when I was little my Grandfather accidentally cut off part of my ear during a haircut.

    3. Stand up for SOMEONE ELSE. If your friends are bullies too, or like to make mean jokes at other people's expense, express your distaste for it. Maybe it's a friend who doesn't happen to be present, maybe it's celebrity going through some public turmoil, maybe it's an institution like the catholic church or the boyscouts, maybe it's gays, blacks...whatever! Find something you believe in and STAND FOR IT. The idea isn't to get in a fist fight over gay rights or anything, but to show you are the type of man who will stand against opposition. If YOU thought it, so did someone else, and they will be grateful you said it even if they don't tell you so.
    One of my friends once was calling the Marine's a bunch of pussies because he'd had a nasty confrontation with a young veteran at some point. I didn't try to change his mind, or fight with him over the subject but I said (roughly) "The Marines are NOT pussies. One of my closest friends serves in the Marine Corps. and HE's no pussy. Whatever happened between you and that guy is something else. Those guys die for us every day, don't forget that."

    Seriously, try these out and post a response about how they went.
    You are a good man, best of luck!


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