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    Default Need help with "How old are you?" question.

    I am 36, however I tend to be interested in girls around mid 20's 24-27 or so. Sometimes I will get asked "How old are you?" Which in reality is not a strange question. I can, and have passed for 27. A lot of people can't believe I am 36 when I tell them. However my concern is that when I am getting to know a woman who may be 10 years younger than me, I am hesitant to tell my real age, I also do not want to lie to them either.

    Last night I was asked via text. I quickly jumped on line and searched "How to answer 'How old are you PUA". There were many different suggestions. One was quoted from Neil Strauss aka Styles. He said "Young enough to do it often, and old enough to do it right" Her response was "Who said we're having sex?", and age never came up again.

    I guess my question is, should I drop my real age, or should I keep using deflector lines? My concern is that if I am chatting up a girl who is 24-25 she may get turned off by my age of 36.

    Any input would be greatly appreciated.

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    Default Re: Need help with "How old are you?" question.

    I haven't had an issue myself when it comes to this but awhile back I came across a little technique to help with this. Mind you I have not field tested this myself. But it may be something worth trying. So basically after you reveal your age and her reaction seems less than positive you can then say
    "Did you know girls age faster than guys? Take models, for example. They peak at like seventeen. By the time they're nineteen they've passed their prime. They're middle aged. You're twenty-one, making you sixty-three in girl years" Credit to SwingCat

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    Default Re: Need help with "How old are you?" question.

    Thanks for that. That's a good one. "The model" line. Actually last Wednesday I went out with a girl for the first time. We kind of new each other from where she works. We went to a comedy club then had drinks after, it was a great date. When age came up I just said"36", she is 24. It didn't faze her at all.

    I guess the bottom line is if she is having fun, which we both were, age isn't as big an issue. I think age may be an issue at the beginning stage. Like if I age came up when I number closed, she may have flaked out? Or maybe I'm just making a bigger issue of it. But I don't won't to get blown out based on my age, it seems kind of prejudice, but at the same time if a woman told me she was 46 I would probably lose interest, unless she really turned me on.

    Thanks for the reply.

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    Default Re: Need help with "How old are you?" question.

    Culture can play a big part. For some girls they may be embarrassed to tell their friends they are dating someone older. In some cultures like Asia or Latin America age/maturity will often be an advantage. They see men in their 30's and 40's as being a 'golden age'.

    Another good line is 'old enough to know better, young enough to do it again' as it doesn't carry as much sexual intent. I think just be honest and proud of it. 'I'm 36'. A girl should not say anything bad about your age - your not a 55 year old chasing a girl in her 20's. If she does, she's a child anyway. Also consider how girls handle those questions - they often ask you to guess, change the topic or claim men shouldnt be asking those questions to deflect it.

    My general feeling is 10 years is about the maximum you want for a LTR - any bigger gap than a decade becomes more difficult. But for anything else its awesome being a guy because our potential range of mates for a guy in his late 30's is vast compared to women of comparable age. It also completely depends on your personality and hers. If you mesh with her friends especially, are fun and youthful there may not be a problem but I do know several guys dating younger girls that eventually just couldn't get on with the younger circle of friends. You have wisdom, stability and experience to offer so don't make any excuses for your age. Girls will bite if your proud, look young and are fun to be around.

    The model line is good also. I read somewhere I think that you shouldn't try 'daddy' them. They need to see you as a mature but youthful thinking guy and not a father figure.

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    Default Re: Need help with "How old are you?" question.

    Oh, I love that question. I love it mainly because I'm 37 and most of the girls I date are 22 to 25. I typically ask how old do you think? Whatever they say I say you are a fantastic guesser.

    The best thing you can do if it bothers you is to say something like, oh no we aren't doing those boring getting to know you questions (mocking tone) what do you do, where did you go to school, how old are you you, how many babies do you want, blah, blah, blah...look we may get to all of that but for right now lets have some fun... If you had to slap somebody right now, who would you slap and why

    Other times I just tell them and enjoy their response of shock. The bottom line is if they are having fun and are attracted to you, they won't care.

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    Default Re: Need help with "How old are you?" question.

    @ Suave that question is well dodgedwith that answer. Ima pull that when i come to that age.
    A man is but a product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes -Mahatma Gandhi

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    Default Re: Need help with "How old are you?" question.

    It's just better to delay it on occasion. Basically, if she's hot for you she won't care.


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