Hey everyone. This is my very first post. Glad to be part of this board!
Here's the deal... I usually have good success with women. Not trying to be immodest, but I feel like I should honestly let you know my stats right off the bat. I'm a decent looking dude, I'm the singer/guitarrist in a band that is pretty well known regionally, I'm outgoing (not shy), and I'm funny. I'm also pretty nonchalant with women, which has always worked well for me.
THIS GIRL IS DRIVING ME INSANE!
She's always acting interested and then closing off at the worst possible time. She is unbelievably hot. Really. I've been trying to get with her for a while, and then recently we were hanging out at her place and the deal was all but done. We're sharing some sexy stories with each other, and getting kinda close to the point, I'm in the middle of this crazy story that I knew would drive her nuts, and then all of a sudden this dude she's friends with shows up at her place completely unannounced (I think he's interested in her, but she doesn't appear interested in him, from what I gather). Anyway, he's in this anxious fit, literally freaking out with some personal problems, so she's in a position where she can't really ask him to leave. I felt bad for the guy but it was infuriating! He's there, and when he leaves the room, she gets all bedroom-eyes with me and sh1t, but we obviously couldn't go further than covert flirting. Anyway, to make a long story short, I didn't hang around for too long after that. But, I wasn't rude at all... I hung out, drank my drink, engaged in conversation, made them both laugh, and like an hour or so later, I pretended to have something else going on.
So... A couple days later she calls me, and is sounding kinda sexy on the phone. She's like "you never got to finish your story! I'm so sorry that so-and-so showed up. I hope you didn't leave cuz you were mad. When are we going to hang out again? You gotta tell me the rest! Are you busy tonight?"
I was busy. Unfortunately. So we didn't connect. But made plans then next day. The plans fell through. UGH! She had to go into work (confirmed). She calls me that night at 2 in the morning (while I was sleeping) and leaves me a voice-mail saying how sorry she was. Saying she wanted me to come over right now if I got the message (at 2 in the morning). Then she "pocket dialed" me at 5AM too.
I woke up the next morning and was like "WHAT THE fark!!!" So mad I slept through the phone ringing.
I call her back, and she's all like, "yeah we absolutely have to hang out asap. OMG I pocket dialed you in my sleep? I must have been dreaming about you! Are you free this afternoon?" I was busy. So she says "Are you free tonight?" I said yes. So we made plans to hang out when she got off work, late at night.
Stood me up. Never called. And I haven't talked to her since.
What the hell is going on with this chick? I'm totally mind-farked right now.
Should I call her? What do I say? What if I get her VM? I don't want to look too desperate to hang out again. But I feel like she's not gonna call unless I make the first move. I think she might be afraid I'm gonna lay into her for standing me up. Maybe she's just a ruthless tease? Or maybe she legit just got turned off like a switch? (I can't think of why). Never had this happen before....
Any help - and I mean ANY help- is very much appreciated!
EDIT: I should also maybe mention that I've known this girl for a while. We were both in relationships, but now we're both single. It's one of those things where we've been into each other, but never acted on it due to being in relationships. We're not super close, so it's not a "friend zone" situation; we hang out now and again.