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    Mikalichov is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Best immediate reaction to being dumped

    So, I was in a kind of LTR, which ended when she got confused and decided to stop.
    I managed the stuff, but while it happened, I was wondering what was the good PUA reaction in this situation.

    My first reaction when I realized where the conversation was going was along the lines of "I kind of like what we are having, and I think it's worth trying to make it work. But if you want to end it now, I'm not going to make it easy for you, you'll have to say it directly."

    Well, then she said it directly, which I was not expecting So I said bye and left

    I know how to deal with the aftermath: not contacting her for around 3 weeks, living my life and having as much stuff as possible, and start seeing other people immediately

    My question is more about the immediate reaction when she says: "I want to stop."
    Do you just walk away? Laugh it off? Say "No you don't."?

    (and not the old "I'm going to do your mom" video, please)

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    Default Re: Best immediate reaction to being dumped

    More specifically, I'm not looking into how to avoid the break-up, but how to get through it in the best way.

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    Default Re: Best immediate reaction to being dumped

    I'm no expert, but imo once you break up....just move on.

    Stop dwelling on it, and go meet new people.

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    Default Re: Best immediate reaction to being dumped

    "I want to see other people."
    "Let's just be friends."
    "You're more like a brother to me."

    Whatever she says:

    "Alright then. See ya later."

    Don't let it phase you. She'll be taken aback by how indifferent you are. She might even change her mind and chase you.

    But if she doesn't want you, you don't want her, and just because she wants you doesn't mean you want her. Ya feelin' me?
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    Default Re: Best immediate reaction to being dumped

    Oh, yeah, as a rule I never go back with an ex, I find that messed up. And sex kind of sucked, so not a FB either.

    It's just that I wondered what was the 'good' way of reacting to it. I like the "Alright then. See ya later." thing, thanks

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    Default Re: Best immediate reaction to being dumped

    Quote Originally Posted by Mikalichov View Post
    Oh, yeah, as a rule I never go back with an ex, I find that messed up. And sex kind of sucked, so not a FB either.

    It's just that I wondered what was the 'good' way of reacting to it. I like the "Alright then. See ya later." thing, thanks
    My advice would be as already stated not to let it phase you. The main thing is not to get angry or raise your voice at all since it will make you come across as the bad guy. Just listen to whatever she says and even if you don't agree with it or her reasons for breaking up, if you don't care or want her back just say I understand what your saying and wish you the best.


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