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    CloseCall is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default How to advice needed to get BACK IN with a HB...

    Alright fellas...I need how to advice on how to get back in with a HB which I had ended last week. I know, I know bad move on my part.

    Basically, I met this girl earlier this year and gone out once. Since then we've been talking via text and over the phone. There were a lot of IOIs like 'I miss you', 'Let's go out here ____', and even 'I love you'. So I'd suggest we go out here to _____ . She would either have plans or no response and this would be the majority of the time be via text. So I be came frustrated and abruptly ended saying it was not going to work out because the way things were going. Again, I know my bad. After i texted her ending it, no response. A day or two later, text her a simple apology but no response again. No contact until today, I texted her an opener, but no response. Suggestions?

    And the only means of communication available to me is text and phone. We don't see each other around since we live quite a distance from each other.

    Thanks for your help...

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    Default Re: How to advice needed to get BACK IN with a HB...

    looks like too much AFC behavior....after texting her that 'last simple apology' that probably just made you look really needy even more so....

    probably just need to move on for now....

    i was an AFC w/ a girl in college and 4 or 5 years later i ran into her and I made her an AFC(chick) before it was over....so some time off may do you some good....if you work your game properly she will notice and say/imply 'you are different'

    you need to focus on more than 1 target too......it'll maximize results and help w/ the AFC behavior because you really are more busy....i make mistakes all the time..i think it's just lack of experience....

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    Default Re: How to advice needed to get BACK IN with a HB...

    Quote Originally Posted by roland777 View Post
    looks like too much AFC behavior....after texting her that 'last simple apology' that probably just made you look really needy even more so....

    probably just need to move on for now....

    i was an AFC w/ a girl in college and 4 or 5 years later i ran into her and I made her an AFC(chick) before it was over....so some time off may do you some good....if you work your game properly she will notice and say/imply 'you are different'

    you need to focus on more than 1 target too......it'll maximize results and help w/ the AFC behavior because you really are more busy....i make mistakes all the time..i think it's just lack of experience....
    I agree with Roland here. I was telling someone else the story of girls I have broken up with. In fact part of my process to becoming better at picking up women was learning to break up with them.

    I broke off from my long term ex in my early 20's who was gorgeous and smart but because I was young and wasn't 100% we could be married for life I called it off. No one cheated, we were great for a long time. It was painful, I regretted it often but in the long run it was the best decision I ever made. People thought I was crazy but I saw down the barrel of time and had to end it. Other friends of mine married their university girlfriends and they are a little miserable and missed out on some great living!

    I broke off with a girl who was very very cute when she was naked about to make love with me. She was certainly a cool girl but also a little annoying. I went to her house to break off and before I had a chance she started undressing. I could have put breaking off on hold because she was certainly hot, but Im also a picky bastard and didn't like her bratty immature attitude so I broke it off right there and then while she was naked!

    I once kicked a girl out of my house on new years eve. I had a party at my house - she was some random girl there who wanted to sleep in my room end of the night. I already figured she was using me because she didn't want to sleep on the couch but I let her in. She went through my CD collection and said 'put on some music but none of this rock crap'. I said 'Ok you choose a CD you want'. She then chose ACDC. I could feel my nerves popping. She then said 'give me a massage' like I was a slave, took off her top and lay down semi naked on the bed. I started massaging her and again she said something rediculous that was putting me down. I stopped, told her to get her clothes on and get out of my house. At 4am. She disrespected me and my position so I gave her the boot. I can't tell you how incredibly empowering it is to be the rejector and so in control that you will even bypass an opportunity for sex for higher principles.

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    Default Re: How to advice needed to get BACK IN with a HB...

    Thanks Roland and White Dragon...I know it was an AFC move. Definitely a lack of experience. An in all honesty, I was trying to be a non-AFC at the onset of the entire experience, but still ended up that way. I am glad I found this forum.


    I am still learning here. I know just to leave it be with her for now. However, I would like to add her back into the pool sometime. What have been your guy's move on this doing this at a later time? Would like to hear your guys' input. Thanks in advance!

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    Default Re: How to advice needed to get BACK IN with a HB...

    Live your life and maybe she will come back and maybe she won't. In 10 years, it might be the best thing to ever happen to you.

    Important thing is to not be an AFC if it goes down again.

    Since i read your thread I have even thought about hitting some old flings up and running some new game on them but it's been so long ago i'm afraid it would be like starting over.

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    Default Re: How to advice needed to get BACK IN with a HB...

    White dragon I want to congratulate you on your New Years Eve party. That girl seemed like a total ass, and I wish I could have seen the look on her face when you kicked her out. That would DEFINITELY feel good.
    Cheers.

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    Default Re: How to advice needed to get BACK IN with a HB...

    Quote Originally Posted by surferdude View Post
    White dragon I want to congratulate you on your New Years Eve party. That girl seemed like a total ass, and I wish I could have seen the look on her face when you kicked her out. That would DEFINITELY feel good.
    Cheers.
    Thanks man, I remember that night vividly, as being the host I had to bounce around and didnt get so drunk. I could have had her no problem, and looking back I probably should have, but I just would not tolerate a girl using me in such a way. Funny thing is, as she left she had to grab her belongings from the lounge and kitchen. A loose aquitance of mine offered to drive her home. He got no action of course but had to drive her home poor idiot. She used him straight after me but I didnt care, I was already asleep. Womens love life histories are full of rejections, ours should be too.

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    Default Re: How to advice needed to get BACK IN with a HB...

    Quote Originally Posted by whitedragon View Post
    Thanks man, I remember that night vividly, as being the host I had to bounce around and didnt get so drunk. I could have had her no problem, and looking back I probably should have, but I just would not tolerate a girl using me in such a way. Funny thing is, as she left she had to grab her belongings from the lounge and kitchen. A loose aquitance of mine offered to drive her home. He got no action of course but had to drive her home poor idiot. She used him straight after me but I didnt care, I was already asleep. Womens love life histories are full of rejections, ours should be too.
    What's your secret? you must be better looking than the average guy or rich? Any tips would be welcome.

    Sometimes I feel like a huge AFC. I feel like physically i'm lacking. Maybe I should hit the gym more often.

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    whitedragon is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: How to advice needed to get BACK IN with a HB...

    Quote Originally Posted by pwonager View Post
    What's your secret? you must be better looking than the average guy or rich? Any tips would be welcome.

    Sometimes I feel like a huge AFC. I feel like physically i'm lacking. Maybe I should hit the gym more often.
    Haha not really - I'm confident in who I am and I'm ambitious, passionate and happy most of the time. You don't need money or a gym physique, they can help but it really comes down to getting out there and talking to women with charm and charisma. I failed a lot, im not going to be every girls type no matter what I say. That all leads to experience and knowing what not to do. I'm probably above average looks but nothing special. But I know how to make a woman feel special. Character determines fate.

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    Default Re: How to advice needed to get BACK IN with a HB...

    Quote Originally Posted by whitedragon View Post
    Haha not really - I'm confident in who I am and I'm ambitious, passionate and happy most of the time. You don't need money or a gym physique, they can help but it really comes down to getting out there and talking to women with charm and charisma. I failed a lot, that leads to experience and knowing what not to do. I'm probably above average looks but nothing special. I think i succeed because I know how to make a woman feel special.
    Are you skinny? I have lost a lot of weight, but I still have a gut. From my observations skinny/fit guys with very low body fat are the ones who are usually running around with the best looking babes..That can't be a coincidence, can it?


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