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    MrStatham is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Made a bad mistake with text messaging. HELP!

    Hey Guys,

    I have a couple of problems. Please bare with me and give me advice on each seperatly. I know I am showing AFC behaviour of some kind but please give me advice what I should do

    Couple of days ago i tried to text my ex after almost 2 months no contact. Before the 2 months we pretty much had a bad argument about the break up and we send mails back and forth with me sending the last one, which was a pretty harsh email. She never responded back on that.

    In the text of a couple of days ago i text her that i past a restaurant where we used to go have diner and that it remind me of her. So i was wondering how she was doing. She did not repsond. That said, I thought fark it. So i text her BFF with cock funny messages. She responded who I was. I said guess. She said if i was the ex of her friend. I asked her which ex.

    Here was where it started to go wrong. She said my name and told that I was enoying. Remind I only text her a few lines as a response on her questions. She said I never expected this kind of behaviour from you. Thank God I did not work out for both of you. I knew my ex was watching this whole conversation if not responding herself. Because I could recognize her in the answers she gave. I said ok I will delete you and no more contact.

    10 minutes later my ex called all angry why I was texting her BFF. She was yelling and stuff. So I told her first to stop yelling and that she did not have exclusivity on friendships. She kept yelling and telling me how pathetic and should move on with my live etc. I told her if she would not calm down I would hang up and that the contact had nothing to do with getting back or any kind. She kept yelling and I hung up.

    Do you guys think it is possible to mend this. I mean not to get back with her but maybe being friends. I know I should not have done this and it was a stupid mistake. But I had a weak moment. Do you think I should apologize for my behaviour or just let it go.

    Second and final problem. about a week ago i messaged my other ex who I did not talk to for almost 2 years. I send her a cock funny message also. She responded today that I maybe was talking to wrong person.

    What should I do with this one? With her I want to restore contact first as friends. I do not want her to get the feeling that I still want her or some kind. When we are friends from there I can make my way to start dating her and see where it leads.

    Please let me know if you need more information about this in order to give me the right help. I thank you all!

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    Default Re: Made a bad mistake with text messaging. HELP!

    Dude why do you want to be friends with your ex ??

    Go meet new girls, make new friends/lovers.

    There's more girls on this planet than you or I could ever have time for, fuck your ex, she obviously doesn't deserve your friendship.

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    Default Re: Made a bad mistake with text messaging. HELP!

    Yeah man, your ex is right. Move on.

    Also, texting your exes' friends is just bad form. If you didn't have good rapport with her friends DURING the relationship, they will NOT want to talk to you, so don't do it!

    You should just not try to contact your exes at all. Try to figure out why the relationship didn't work. Things you did wrong, things she did wrong, learn from it, then move on. Dwelling on the past will only cause problems, like the ones you're faced with now.

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    Default Re: Made a bad mistake with text messaging. HELP!

    Quote Originally Posted by MrStatham View Post
    Hey Guys,

    I have a couple of problems. Please bare with me and give me advice on each seperatly. I know I am showing AFC behaviour of some kind but please give me advice what I should do

    Couple of days ago i tried to text my ex after almost 2 months no contact. Before the 2 months we pretty much had a bad argument about the break up and we send mails back and forth with me sending the last one, which was a pretty harsh email. She never responded back on that.

    In the text of a couple of days ago i text her that i past a restaurant where we used to go have diner and that it remind me of her. So i was wondering how she was doing. She did not repsond. That said, I thought fark it. So i text her BFF with cock funny messages. She responded who I was. I said guess. She said if i was the ex of her friend. I asked her which ex.

    Here was where it started to go wrong. She said my name and told that I was enoying. Remind I only text her a few lines as a response on her questions. She said I never expected this kind of behaviour from you. Thank God I did not work out for both of you. I knew my ex was watching this whole conversation if not responding herself. Because I could recognize her in the answers she gave. I said ok I will delete you and no more contact.

    10 minutes later my ex called all angry why I was texting her BFF. She was yelling and stuff. So I told her first to stop yelling and that she did not have exclusivity on friendships. She kept yelling and telling me how pathetic and should move on with my live etc. I told her if she would not calm down I would hang up and that the contact had nothing to do with getting back or any kind. She kept yelling and I hung up.

    Do you guys think it is possible to mend this. I mean not to get back with her but maybe being friends. I know I should not have done this and it was a stupid mistake. But I had a weak moment. Do you think I should apologize for my behaviour or just let it go.

    Second and final problem. about a week ago i messaged my other ex who I did not talk to for almost 2 years. I send her a cock funny message also. She responded today that I maybe was talking to wrong person.

    What should I do with this one? With her I want to restore contact first as friends. I do not want her to get the feeling that I still want her or some kind. When we are friends from there I can make my way to start dating her and see where it leads.

    Please let me know if you need more information about this in order to give me the right help. I thank you all!
    Time cures all things. First of all. Step 1: If you offended your ex's maybe it's a good time to say sorry. Apologize to them. Step 2: Let your ex's know that you only want friendship with them. Concerning the other ex, what I would do is step 1, step 2 and give her some time, then you keep calling her once a week. Give her time. I would also suggest you to move on and maybe look for other girl in the meantime. Take care buddy.

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    Default Agree to Disagree

    I'd beg to differ with all of you on this one.

    I was almost in your shoes just recently. The only difference was that I did not attempt to contact any of the girl's friends after things between me and her fell apart.

    After I got back from winter break, I participated in a dodgeball tournament. At the tournament were all of the girl's best friends and some of my own. At first, they would not talk to me, because they had the impression that I was a needy, obsessive nobody. However, it was this same weekend that marked two weeks for me since I began studying all of my stuff.

    In other words, I was ready to rock it.

    I went in there and played some kickass dodgeball. All night, I was ripping out funny remarks and socializing with everybody as if I was a king. Soon, I got all of her friends and her closest friend, who originally told me to stop talking to the girl, to finally be active with me. We both shot back and forth playful sneers and teases as we got one another out. It was overall an awesome night.

    Fast forward. There was a big dance at my school, and all of her friends were once again there. She, once again, was not there herself. I immediately entered the place as if I owned it. When I went out onto the dance floor, I just went ham. Eventually, I had a group of guys following me around because they knew I was the most superior in their group. Her friends immediately began socializing with me and told me to dance in their circle, so I did. At one point, when PSY was playing and I was in another group, I jumped right through their ring, stomped down in the center of it, and started doing the dance. All of her friends screamed and hooted for me. Afterwards, they socialized with me even more as if I was the greatest guy in the world.

    What I virtually did was I showed them that I was way different than what their best friend thought I was. This put her in the wrong and me in the right.

    To accomplish the same objective, go out their and prove them wrong. They say you're annoying? Go out there and be cocky funny. They say you're pathetic? Go out there and show them that you're a king who has no need for a queen. Go out there and OWN IT!
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Made a bad mistake with text messaging. HELP!

    I have to agree with you Swagman. However I would also like to add that all that you did (playing good dodgeball, being sorrounded by other people, dancing good in front of people, being chased and looked up by other guys) raised your value. Women like a guy with high value. That maybe made it easier for them to talk to you. Good advice as always.


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