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    Default Want some pointers with escalating.

    Alright Fella's.

    New thoughts enter my head all the time and my mind set with how i perceive girls changes often. Which is why, in wanting some guidance, i bring this question.

    Firstly, I am very confident, relaxed and teasy with women. I have a very much " whatever happenes for a reason " belief, so i am not needy, at all.

    I have been texting and dating a couple of girls recently, the dates went well, and i know they were into me. The 'problem' i have is i am too laid back and don't escalate quick enough (with sex) not kissing or kino. So by the 3rd or 4th date the spark wares away and we stop speaking. Now i am seeing the pattern unfold with each girl and it's obviously just a learning curve for me.

    Recently it stuck in my head when my friend said to me " You should decide right away if you want to f.u.c.k them or not " I kind of agree. My question is, should i be more ultra-direct and f-close quick?

    My answer is easy and i know the answer, but check out what i have written to see where i am coming from.

    Peace
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    Default Re: Want some pointers with escalating.

    You wouldn't be the first guy to be so laid back that it's almost like we FORGET that we are suppose to try and sleep with them. The key is to have a SEXUAL INTENT with them.

    In a way this does create an expectation. However if you keep in mind not to put a time-frame on it then you will have no worries about coming across as desperate. It's basically saying " I know it's going to happen eventually.... and I'm going to enjoy getting her aroused to where she can't control herself around me." With this basic mindset it should put you in a sexual mood.

    Also if you really are laid back and forget to escalate, try watching porn just before you meet up with a woman. It will put you in a sexual mood and it will be easy to visualize her naked while you are talking to her. Control yourself mind you lol. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: Want some pointers with escalating.

    Try get in the habit of touching a girl straight away when you meet her, it's all easy after that. Engineer your dates so you can maximize kiss close opportunities. You just have to kiss her at some point - a romantic stroll after dinner, somewhere a bit private so you are both comfortable - whatever works. Kiss closing is not easy sometimes so it's good to practice making it happen as soon as you can. Once you kiss some relief is over because generally it's fairly easy from that point onwards towards sex.

    When I get to 2nd or 3rd date it's my mission to make it happen. Just remember if a girls on a second date with you your chances are extremely high she'll kiss you, so rarely do you have anything to loose.

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    Default Re: Want some pointers with escalating.

    Cheers for the feedback.

    I have no problem with touching them and kiss closes come natural and without effort on the 1st date. It's when we go on 3/4 dates and we still have not f-closed that they start to lose interest. Good thing is, i don't text them being needy to inform them i have noticed the lack of contact from them, I just carry on as normal and maybe send them a random text out of the blue a week later or so.

    A huge problem was not having my own place for a few months (when i was dating 2 girls) And i had no way of bringing them back, so i tried to stretch the time out. Now i have my own place but i have kind of stopped speaking to the girls. Ironic, right?

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    Default Re: Want some pointers with escalating.

    Quote Originally Posted by whitedragon View Post
    When I get to 2nd or 3rd date it's my mission to make it happen. Just remember if a girls on a second date with you your chances are extremely high she'll kiss you, so rarely do you have anything to loose.
    I discovered that too, is that a rule? in my second dates with the two last girls I hook up with, they were craving for a kiss in some ways.

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    Default Re: Want some pointers with escalating.

    Could you be scared to "F" close? Do you feel your bedroom skills are not up to snuff? These are not personal slams on you just questions. You had no problem meeting the girls when you didn't have a place, but now you have the ultimate swinging bachelor pad and your not utilizing it. For bedroom skills I would advise porn to LEARN from, not watch. You can LEARN a lot from watching two girls! Ciao, FauxPas.


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