So I've heard that usually, relating what she is saying to when you were a kid was a good way to build comfort and DHV ("Oh, you like swimming, I loved doing that when I was a kid, I remember that one time, first time I felt so independant", bad example, but whatever)
Except, I sucked as a kid. I mean, I still like who I was, but I was clearly an Omega Male haha. Would just stay at home reading books or playing games, don't do any sport, afraid of talking to anybody. It started to get better when I was 20 or so, but the whole "kid-time" is full of DLV
BUT. I also heard that lying was really bad, and I believe it (since it always shows up at some point). So what should I do? Is there a way to use "I was an antisocial stayathome weak nerdy kid" into DHV? Or should I just use my 20+ as my "kid time" (even though it might not build comfort as well)?
I know it's details, but I like explanations on details