I met this girl in college 5 years ago. We kept in touch from time to time...text, facebook, twitter. Just friendly stuff. In the back of my mind I always wanted to get with her. We live about four hours apart so it wasn't a huge priority to make plans because it'd be a hassle. But since 6 months ago we started texting quite a bit. She wanted me to come down and visit. I agreed and we made plans.
We FINALLY met up again this year. I hooked up with her the first night there. I was sleeping with her for a couple months (March to May). Visited her once a month. Crazy sex. It was all good. We texted but not TOO much. She'd send me pics, want me to come over late at night (I didn't because we live so far away). I wasn't needy or anything. I played it cool. I didn't want a relationship. We never even talked about a relationship. And I got with another girl during this time so I didn't have one-itis or anything.
The last time I was there I gave her a goodbye kiss. Didn't think it'd cause so much b.s. A week or so after I saw she posted on Twitter that her grandfather passed away. I sent her a text saying I'm sorry to hear that and I'd be thinking about her and her family. All that nice stuff. No response. I remember her mentioning when we first hung out she really wished she had this one DVD...so I mailed that to her. No response...no thank you or anything. Before she would always get back to me. Most of the time I don't care if girls don't get back to me but in this case I found it very inconsiderate because I was being a nice friend, but she thought differently.
I realized she thought I really like her and want a relationship. And I know that scared her away. It was a big misunderstanding. So that caused me to over think things like a chump and text her too much. I told her I didn't want a relationship and we don't have to take things so seriously. And that she didn't have to blatantly ignore me. Waited two weeks. No response. I told her I didn't appreciate being ignored and I'm sure she doesn't like when people do that to her. And then I texted, "Oh and you're welcome for the movie by the way." All that made it look like I want her even more.
The more she blatantly ignores me, the more I want to talk to her. Last night I made it clear I didn't want a relationship, I'm cool being friends, and told her I'm sorry for getting so frustrated.
I have now come across as a bi-polar/desperate chump. Why couldn't she just be straight up with me? For real. Texting really f'd me up here. It made me do things I don't normally do. I know for sure I wouldn't act that way and get that frustrated with her in person. It'd be easier to clear things up...but if I just showed up where she usually goes out on the weekends I'd come across as a huge stalker.
I've been talking to other girls and have a couple other options. But this girl who is blatantly ignoring me is really messing with my head. The tables really turned on me. I turned into a chump with this girl and I hate it because it's a stupid misunderstanding but she doesn't see it that way. What do I do? Should I just cut off all contact forever?