There is a woman who is a neighbor of mine and has been for a few years. I've been lusting after her the entire time but since I'm married and she's married, and since she and her husband live just a few houses down the street, I haven't made any advances yet.
For the past few years, we have just been neighbors, stopping to say "hi" and chat for a bit from time to time. During all of this time, she has been a bit flirtatious with me so it's possible that she felt some attraction towards me as well. But it could have been that she just like to flirt and maybe she doesn't feel the way I feel. I have no way of knowing.
If I knew with 100% certainty that this woman was open to having an affair, I wouldn't hesitate making an advance but if I asked her out or let her know how I felt about her, I would be taking a great risk because in the worst case scenario she would tell her husband what I did, and he would most likely go straight to my wife and tell her.
I know I can't completely eliminate the worst case scenario risk but if I do choose to try and seduce this woman, how can I minimize the risk as much as possible? I'd be curious to hear how really good seducers of women would approach this case.