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    Hey Fellas,

    As some of you may know I'm seeing DG - being going strong now for about 3 months.

    On Sat night we went out to a club, met up with some friends had all round pretty good time.

    However, one of the girl friends brought an old buddy - a guy with. He is pretty feminine and dorky. Turns out that DG went out with this guys brother many moons back.

    On the way home DG says that this particualr guy whispers to her as we're leaving, "My brother was an idiot. If I was going out with you I'd never have let you go." Pretty AFC. Me and DG laugh about it on the way home and I've teased her about it since.

    Last night, DG and I are out and she says that this guy has facebooked her and told the girl friend that he likes DG.

    My basic plan is to facebook him and give him a mild warning to back down. He really is AFC but I want to nip this in the bud.

    Any advice?

    Thanks
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    Default Re: Minor but irritating problem

    Maybe you could try "I'm sure you meant no offense, but DG is with me on this one. K buddy. Should def have a drink with us soon though." I have never used this and its from the top of my head so feel free to be critical.

    My thought process is that you should try to make friends with any guys you find a threat. They are less likely to step on your toes if they like you.

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    Default Re: Minor but irritating problem

    Thanks Batman - really good advice

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    Default Re: Minor but irritating problem

    don't want to sound like an idiot but does DG stand for a PUA term? or is that just how you reference your gf....

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    Default Re: Minor but irritating problem

    Just a reference, sir. Stands for damn good...

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    Default Re: Minor but irritating problem

    I'd to with BatMans idea. To get all aggressive is to show you're threatened, which I can see you aren't. If he wants to persist, it doesn't really matter. You are a PUA alpha. No one can be higher value than you so who cares.

    : GeMiNi :&

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    Default Re: Minor but irritating problem

    Hi

    I know what you are feeling, but it is really up to DG to put a stop to this, she is the one that should be telling him the answer is no, I am in a relationship and not interested. Only she can stop it. I hope all works out for you good luck.

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    Default Re: Minor but irritating problem

    but rs5096 telling her to do that is an AFC move....

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    Default Re: Minor but irritating problem

    Kadhlin has a point. It really should be up to her. However women usually love the attention and chalk up alot of the behavior as innocent all the way up to the point where he whips it out in front of her or something lol. Then rs5096 will really have a reason to say something to him AND DG. So there's nothing wrong with alittle "caveman" behavior showing some kind of ownership over his territory. As long as it is done in a tasteful way on not too frequently, women like that.

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    Default Re: Minor but irritating problem

    Hi Fellas,

    Honestly - I'm not too fussed about the whole thing. DG and I have a good thing and I trust her for various reasons.

    I once hear a definition of alpha is not to start anything but to finish it. I do agree with that definition in this case.

    Based on that definition I thought I'd end the potential trouble that I don't need from this guy asap before it did get really bothersome. Batman's advice here is very good.

    All the best
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