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    Default Friedzoned by chick from work

    So there's this chick that I work with... and just recently got friendzoned by.
    We had a wee bit of a thing going a while back, heaps of txting, flirting etc. and i went round to her place once, we watch a movie and made out a bit, but didnt get much further because of LMR that i didnt get past (DAMN). there were a few more opportunities for things to happen after this, but nothing did.

    a few weeks after this, I REALLY screwed up by telling her i liked her (i now know NEVER to do this)... however, she said she kind of liked me too, but didnt want things to get weird at work so was unsure of what to do. we settled on 'taking it easy'... but still nothing happened.

    So this past weekend, we were out on the town with some mutual friends... i gamed her, then isolated her and tried to make some advances... this is where i got friendzoned.

    after doing a bit of research on friendzoning i think i have realized where i screwed up... first of all i told her that i liked her (BIG mistake) then when we were supposed to be 'taking it easy' i think i was too pushy, asking her to go on wee dates and come over to my place to 'watch a movie'... i should have let her come to me instead, right?

    But the real question is, where to from here?

    like i said, i've done some research on the subject of friendzoning... so i think i've got a good idea of what to do. so here it is:

    1) don't contact her again until she contacts me
    - This way i'll look like i might have even lost some interest? leave her thinking.. why isn't he talking to me anymore?

    2) regardless of number 1, when i do see her, be just as nice as always... the thing is that i will see her at work once or twice a week for a couple hours... so i'll still act the way i did before and do just a little bit of gaming (cocky/funny, DHV stories, negs etc) but nothing too serious

    3) in relation to number one... try and distance myself from her for a few weeks outside of work... so this mean, don't txt her, don't facebook her.. if she want to meet up at all, maybe even flake on her?

    4) try to incite jealousy... game on other girls, be seen with other girls etc etc

    5) like number 4, just generally game on other girls, i might find someone else who's better anyway, huh?

    6) after this period of distancing myself for a couple weeks or so, start gaming her hard again and see what happens? this time though i wont tell her i like her, i wont be too needy and always asking her on dates etc.



    so how does that sound?

    does it sound like a good plan? or any tips to improve?

    also, any tips on staying away from the friendzone would be good... i always find that when i like a girl, i tend to get pretty bad oneitis... but with girls i dont like so much, they keep coming back for more.

    thanks guys.

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    Default Re: Friedzoned by chick from work

    dude liked all of it, thats pretty much spot on.

    To add to it thoa when she was a bit wishy washy on how she felt your relationship should be you should of taken the reins and steered it the direction you wanted it to go. But, because you didn't I feel like her feelings for you cooled off. When you are progressing the relationship like you are you got to keep the emotional momentum going. Keep it constantly moving towards a deeper level of intimancy until you two become a couple.

    But the stuff you said at the end is perfect for your situation. Sometimes Ill purposely put myself in the friendzone so I can use those technique on a girl.
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    Default Re: Friedzoned by chick from work

    Thanks for the quick feedback!

    Yea I thought I had the right idea... just wanted to make sure! Could you just elaborate on how I should have "taken the reins" and steered the relationship in the direction I wanted?
    Im just not sure how exactly that could be done? after all, I did try asking her out a couple times, but just got excuses why she couldn't.

    thanks heaps!

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    Default Re: Friedzoned by chick from work

    I know what you mean man. The friendzone is really bad man, and take control of the relationship I think he meant. Women need men who lead, make the decisions so no "where do you want to go", "where do you want to eat?" type of questions, etc. Well if she's asking like that go for lower intensity plans first, and I'd freeze out for a while to make her miss you dude.

    HOw does he progress the relationship forward though with the girl? @ 0rooster

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    Default Re: Friedzoned by chick from work

    Like when you had the other chances to have something occur, you should of kino'd and sweet talked her until something happened, take two steps forward and one step back.
    And when she was unsure how things would be at work, that was when you should have lead it in the direction you wanted it to go. When she was unsure you have to be solid in your conviction.
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    Default Re: Friedzoned by chick from work

    Thanks heaps guys, your info is all very much appreciated! worked with her today... gamed her a little bit... negs, DHVs and acting not-so-interested etc. think it worked well... haven't contacted her yet outside of work and won't until she contacts me.

    Think i'm going about this right.. so i'll post up on here again in a couple weeks if anything progresses! thanks guys!


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