Okay, so I know my personality type and stuff like that and we have a problem with motivation. I'm basically exactly the same personality as style is.
Okay, so heres the thing. A while ago, 2 years, I used the style life challenge book and finished it and I was getting numbers 2-3 times a week. Then my shift at work got changed. And I couldn't make it to the bar on time. In the book the game Style has a problem where he can approach girls but then he gives up too early for no reason and walks away. I have that problem.
So basically lets say I stop approaching for 2 weeks. I have to start over. So I will have to work my way up to appraoching. The next set of challenges I give myself I have to re work in. So today I am going to go to the mall and do a dhv and cold read 2 chicks.
The thing is I will likely give up after that. Even if its going really well I will walk away. I was thinking some kind of NLP thing maybe? I don't really know what to do.
An obvious question would be so what did you do to break through this barrier before? A girl at my work who I should have gone out with but she was a perfectionist and using the 'rules' book. So it didnt happen. Anyways really liked her and eventually when she quit, that night I just didnt give a fuck and blew right through my barriers.
So I'm hoping this is a good enough description.
Anyone familiar with the enneagram I am a 9w8. Yes, I know all mediator personalities have this problem but I do not know how to deal with it.