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    Default I have the problem style had. Need help. Maybe nlp?

    Okay, so I know my personality type and stuff like that and we have a problem with motivation. I'm basically exactly the same personality as style is.

    Okay, so heres the thing. A while ago, 2 years, I used the style life challenge book and finished it and I was getting numbers 2-3 times a week. Then my shift at work got changed. And I couldn't make it to the bar on time. In the book the game Style has a problem where he can approach girls but then he gives up too early for no reason and walks away. I have that problem.

    So basically lets say I stop approaching for 2 weeks. I have to start over. So I will have to work my way up to appraoching. The next set of challenges I give myself I have to re work in. So today I am going to go to the mall and do a dhv and cold read 2 chicks.

    The thing is I will likely give up after that. Even if its going really well I will walk away. I was thinking some kind of NLP thing maybe? I don't really know what to do.

    An obvious question would be so what did you do to break through this barrier before? A girl at my work who I should have gone out with but she was a perfectionist and using the 'rules' book. So it didnt happen. Anyways really liked her and eventually when she quit, that night I just didnt give a fuck and blew right through my barriers.

    So I'm hoping this is a good enough description.

    Anyone familiar with the enneagram I am a 9w8. Yes, I know all mediator personalities have this problem but I do not know how to deal with it.

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    Default Re: I have the problem style had. Need help. Maybe nlp?

    The biggest ah ha moment in the game came for me when I realized all my roadblocks were self imposed. As soon as I understood that my game took a quantum leap. You are only stopping because you are stopping yourself.

    Making out with girls in 30 minutes, possible. instant same night lays, possible. Automatic number closes, possible. All of it came instantly once I got out of my head.

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    Default Re: I have the problem style had. Need help. Maybe nlp?

    Honestly, I was looking for like an NLP solution. I know this sounds crazy but I'm probably about 100x ahead of anyone else in pickup as far as inner game goes. I know that sounds crazy... but that response was not what I was looking for at all.

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    Default Re: I have the problem style had. Need help. Maybe nlp?

    If you look into the Enneagram type stuff you will see that 9's have a problem with motivation. So since buddhism has been looking at meditation type techniques that last type of response has about zero benefit to me. I'm not ragging on you, its just that I've been in the game for 10+ years and I know all the psychology about stuff. Nothing like that is going to do anything for me. I'm looking for an NLP type solution, since I am not familiar in that area.

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    Default Re: I have the problem style had. Need help. Maybe nlp?

    So you want us to somehow force you to break your self-imposed barriers? It doesn't work that way man, we can't program you with a magic trick

    Granted, that's not the answer you want to hear, but that's still the only one.

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    Default Re: I have the problem style had. Need help. Maybe nlp?

    Haha, mika he has 100x, the inner game of any one in pick up. The idea that he could use his inner game to recognize that a lack of motivation is a self imposed obstacle is preposterous. So if any one knows a magic trick our two, please share.


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