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    Default Understanding women from text

    Hey, guys, usually, my instinct has served me pretty well. When girls text with a, "What are you doing right now?" I know I'm getting my dcik sucked later. But recently, I have encountered a situation that confuses me. The apporach is very strange (I am unorthodox, especially when horny LOL)

    I walk into a karaoke bar and chat up the owner. I tell him that I wanna sing with girls and if there are any in one of the rooms singing by herself, I'll sing with her and pick up the bill. The owner tells me that unfortunately, it's a slow night, but he took my phone number down and said that he will call me asap next time a situation like that occurs to I can hop on over. He also gives me a number. He said a girl walked in here earlier and gave him her number to be contacted. It's unclear if she was looking for a boyfriend or if she offered a service where she sang with you for like $30 an hour or if she was a prostitute but I was basically fine with any of the above. I call the number and ask her to come out and drink but she says it's too late and she's tired so I ask her out to dinner the next day. She said to text her the next day. I do so, and the next day, she said she doesn't like to eat with strangers! (So why the heck did you leave your number at the sleazy karaoke??) So then I chat-text her for like 15 texts each side, asking her out 3 times. 3rd time, she tells me to just leave her alone. I think I've taken that as far as it will go (I do that) and I tell her good bye as well. But then, 4am the next day, she texts me a "Good night".

    Question: Why would a girl do this? Is she interested or not? Usually when a girl texts me "good night" at 4am, that's a done deal but what the heck is going on here? By the way, 4am was 8 hours ago so the situation is live. Prompt responses are appreciated. Thanks!

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    Default Re: Understanding women from text

    Well yes you are right about the unorthodox part, even on PUA standards lol. But makese for a very interesting story.

    Now I don't want to get too far ahead, but lets just assume she is interested in you. If you put alot of pressure on her in the beginning it is possible that you just KILLED the attraction. However what usually happens after a guy tries so hard (AFC behavior) is that he eventually gives up and walks away. This ends up giving her the emotional space she needed to chase you. It's risky to play this type of game, but if it works....it works well. There's usually one person chasing and the other being chased. (Sometimes a mutual chasing of each other. This is the mushy gushy stuff you see).

    So just relax and see what happens. If she comes to you...let her. Try to become a challenge THAT'S WITHIN HER REACH. If you are TOO much of a challenge, she will walk away. Also become a puzzle she needs to solve. Since she is giving mixed signals, the appropriate response is that YOU give mixed signals. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: Understanding women from text

    Thanks, but I've never met her before. There is no chance that there was attraction because she doesn't know what I look like, but knows I invited her to a blind date. Your theory probably holds true in most normal circumstances, but we don't know each other (boy would this turn out to be a huge waste of time if I eventually saw her and she was ugly LOL) so it probably isn't as deep. But there is a mystery factor that might work in my favor. She may wonder what I'm like. I want to exploit that and make her wanna see who I am. I already told her that my looks won't disappoint her for sure during the conversation but that didn't work. Any ideas on exploiting the mystery factor?

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    Default Re: Understanding women from text

    This is a very unusual situation so my advice is completely based on theory and trying to come from a general woman's mindset in this situation.

    You might be able to come from a point like how online dating works, which is to focus on comfort. If I tell you "Don't think about elephants," then there is a good chance that you still think of them. So try to avoid phrases that make you sound like you are trying to CONVINCE her of something. Ex: "I am not a stalker/pervert/psycho."

    You want to try and come from the mindset that you aren't sure if YOU should meet HER. She has to "earn" you in a way of speaking. This makes you the challenge that I mentioned. Also create a fun vibe. Changer her mood, not her mind.

    Again your situation is very unique and makes for an interesting story so there is no guarantee that you will get far at all. But this is what I believe will increase your chances. Hope she's hot man lol.


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