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    Default She wants me again?

    Hey guys, faded here. I'm new here but have been reading here for a little while.

    I have a aituation on my hands that im not really sure what to do about it. Let me give you the background info. This was the first girl i talked to, kissed, and farked. I was 18. It happend last december.

    So this girl was friends with my roommates brother. Me and my roommate worked at the same place at the time and she i guess had came in and scouted me out. I remember her being there that day but she never said a word because she was shy and lets be honest i was an 18 year old virgin so i obviously wasn't.

    So a few days later i have a pending facebook request from her and i accepted it because she was a mutual friend with a few. She liked one of my pictures and said she loves my car. She asked To drive it and i responded that i dont let strangers drive my car. She said "then get to know me" and dropped her number in my inbox. So i started texting her.

    I was very distant with her for a the first 10 or so texts. I told her i was going to sleep and she told me to text her the next day so the next day comes and i havent texted her because i wanted to see if she would reinitiate and she did.

    We text eachother for 3 days while im out of town. The day i get back she was talking about hanging out and i was 100% down but she kept saying she wanted to bring a friend and i told her no. So then i ended up meeting her to pick her and her friend up at a store and took her friend home. We just drove around talking for an hour and i was exhausted so i said i would drop her off so i can get some sleep.

    She texts me maybe 15 minutes after i get home and we start some sexy talk etc. she said she wanted a massage so i was like me too. So she said "come get one" i immediately popped a boner and drove to get a condom then picked her up and took her back to my place. We cuddled and it escalated from her and i farked the sh1t out of her.

    At that point in my life i wanted a relationship but told her i didnt want a relationship. She later asked me after the bang if she wanted to be in a relationship and i told her we will see how it goes. Fast forward 2 days we are still texting and i took her to the movies. Went with another couple (my roommate and his girl since they know her and me) needless to say big farking mistake because i couldnt do what i wanted with her without feeling awkward and we still needed more "alone" time to get comfort and build rapport.

    So after the movie we go back to our place alone and just watch tv and she starts hinting shes gotta go so i asked whydoesnt she just sleep here and she said shes gotta be up early so i took her home. I asked her if she wanted a relationship and she said not right now and i was totally digging this chick so i went total afc saying she said the other day etc. we got into a little fight i guess it was but she quit texting me for a few days. Being an afc i was trying to initiate contact and either got 1 word or no responses.

    I said fark it and continued to live my life and party with my friends. One night im completely farking drunk and she texted me. One of my friends had my phone to play music and texted her "why are you such a whore" so she freaked and i explained to her it wasnt me and she kept freaking so my drunk ass is like panicking and trying to call lol. She also said she was texting me that night to see if i would want to be in a relationship with her

    I figured it was through so i went on with life and she texted me maybe a week after it asking what was up and i said nothing and she didnt text me ever again.

    Now ive still got the girl added on my facebook so shes known everything ive been doing the last 8 months and ive been having blast if i say so myself. Now during this time period i started reading on game and quickly learned what went wrong and what i should have been doing etc. i have eliminated my AA and have gotten a few lays and over 10 girls in bed with me in this time.

    As far as the girl goes she met a dude and got engaged but broke up last month. Since then i have been thinking about reinitiating contact with my new gaming skills. The other day out of the blew she went through my photos and one album i have from miami has over a 100 pictures and she "liked" the only picture of me out of those 100. Which tells me she is interested because that is kind of how we got things started the first time.

    As of right now im chasing other girls looking for a relationship but if i dont see them as relationship material i just hit it and quit it. I will do this until i find the right chick. As far as this girl goes i would want her as a sex buddy and nothing more. I already know shes not relationship material but she was a good fark.

    So i kind of want to see what you guys think about this. Should i just "like" one of her pictutes and see how she reacts? Or should i initiate contact? I was thinking the push pull would be helpful in this situation but i want to see what you guys think.

    Edit: damn didnt realise this was so long but enjoy the read lol
    Last edited by faded; 06-27-2012 at 11:49 PM. Reason: Edit

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    whitedragon is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: She wants me again?

    Just re-initiate contact but this time be certain of what you want. In the first instance you seemed confused as to what you wanted and it probably confused her too. Understandable of course. Now you have some more experience under your belt you have to firstly find out whether you still have the attraction for her long term (to form a relationship), whether the feelings are sentimental because she was your first love, whether you want her again because a few times you couldn't get her (or the timing wasn't right) or whether you just miss the sex and her bod and want to have some of that action again.

    If you know more clearly what you want, you will be able to handle yourself much better and lead her to where you want. She may feel the same way and need you to lead because she's not sure about your true intentions. She is young too and will surely still have feelings for you. It's ok to be a bit AFC here and there...being a 'nice guy' is actually ok...plenty of nice guys get laid all the time - its how sharp and confident you are that counts. Re-initiating is more confident and direct than posting a like symbol on her picture and its something she has already done. She made a move, now its your turn so make a bolder move and take what you want instead of skimming around the edges. And plenty of things you did the first time around worked like acting a bit hard to get. Re-initiate with her but gently twist the cork to get her to chase you again. You slept with her before so it should be very easy to ignite her emotions again.

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    faded is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: She wants me again?

    Thanks for the response. Went ahead and sent her a message so I guess we'll tune in for the response.

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    Default Re: She wants me again?

    Ok i managed to get her number. Heres how it went.

    Me: hey! Looks like you were going through my miami photos. How have you been?
    Her: yess loll, nothingg and working, youu?
    Me: not too crazy, ive been keepin myself busy and having fun
    Her: i see that loll
    Me: are you going to school this fall? Im starting up soon
    Her: yess but i havent found a school yet
    Me: well there are plenty out there, hit me up sometime #######

    I put it on her to text me she dis this is what she says
    Her: heey
    Me: who is this?
    Her: your favorite girl
    Me: oh which one?
    Her: youu should only have one
    Me: oh really now?
    Her: yuup

    Not really sure where to go from here. Ive been keeping my messages anywhere from 20 mins to an hour apart. She texts back quicker. I was thinking on waiting for her to reinitiate but i wanna see what you guys think.

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    Default Re: She wants me again?

    Here's an update.

    Texted her maybe 10 texts total over the next 2 days, just talk about random stuff. On the 4th of july i was very drunk and posted a fb status that i was having a lot of fun and told friends to hit me up. The ex hits me up. She asked what i was doing and i said was hanging out with a bunch of friends (dhv). I asked what she was up to and she said nothing and that she is bored. Im guessing she wanted me to see her which i wasnt going to do that night. We had some small talk and i was flirty the whole time and then i escalated.

    Me: let me guess. You are laying in bed in your umderwear textimg me
    Her: yes! Haha
    Me: aww how cute. too bad your cuddle buddy isn't there
    Her: you know i was engaged right? Blah blah
    Me: you were?

    Convo went on to the discussion of tattoos and how she is going to make me get her name tatted.
    Me: oh and how do you plan on getting me to do that?
    Her: getting you very wasted haha!
    Me: too bad im wasted right now and still holding a conversation
    Her: dammit!

    We exchanged a couple more texts and she said she was going to bed so i said good night

    Next afternoon i sent her a text that said *poke* and got no response

    Next day after said hey... No response

    I waited a week and said hey stranger!... Yet no response. Im thinking this one is dead and if she wants to talk she will eventually text me but im not counting on it.


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