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    Default Target at work.

    Aight, so starting off I'm 23 years old and the youngest person working at the company. I'd say im a little above average looking, a little overweight but not obese, and I carry myself like a BOSS.

    Im a manager here, and I use to catch the two gals I'm interested in constantly sneaking a peek at me every time they walked by me, whether I was in my office or just walking around. This was around 3 months ago. One of them is a hb8, and the other an 8.5. We've been constantly going back and forth flirting with each other.

    hb8.5, use to come to my office daily just to say hello, and she would hang around a little longer but, me acting like an AFC didn't get that she wanted me to talk to her, or rather I just didn't know what to say. Any day that I took a "sick" leave, the following day she would approach me asking what was what was wrong / she hoped I wasn't too ill. I however never made a move during this prime time, I simply made excuses for myself with being in an Arab nation, having issues with culture, not to mention not wanting to mess shit up with my job. Now, a good 3 months after working around her, she is being cold. Doesn't even say hello anymore, but what confuses me is that she came to me last weekend asking if I was attending a fundraiser for the company. I wasn't going to go, since it wasn't within my responsibility to attend it, however I took advantage of the situation and she ended up giving me her number. I havn't called or anything though. We constantly run into each other everyday since it's a small office area that we work in. My question is, what should I do now to actually make a move / how should I approach the situation? A few things to keep in mind though, culture wise, girls here are more anxious about being tagged as a slut by simply being with a guy in public who isn't part of their family, unless it's within a large group of people, which I don't really know people who I would want to hang out with with her. Also drinking is illegal here so I can't just take her to a bar or introduce that unless I'm sure she drinks, which so far she seems like she doesn't.

    I do have something working for me, which is the hb8 has constantly been crushing on me and she shows it. I'm not going for her though due to a few factors. But I figure that she can help me get with hb8.5 by having me be the prize to attain.

    Any help or advice with the situation would be greatly appreciated.

    Oh and a few other notes that may or may not matter: I have no car, and I'm related to our boss.

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    Default Re: Target at work.

    Ok so are you an expat in somewhere like Dubai, Abu Dhabi, Bahrain, Kuwait etc??? U.A.E? Are your targets local middle eastern women or other expats? Either way she has probably gone cold herself thinking you don't like her because you never seized the opportunities she gave you.

    She's walked by your office countless times, walk by hers, or where she works and say hi with a smile. That's all you need to do. Smile and say hi. If she's still interested she will surely engineer some conversation. As you are work colleagues you have the perfect angle to ask her out for a meal after work or possibly a hotel bar (it is usually legal to drink in a 'hotel' establishment in Arab nations or at a private home if you have a licence (crazy farking place)) - unless she is a muslim and cannot drink...well she's probably not going to be too much fun anyway in that case and you're far better off chasing targets in the expat community. Or move to Asia to be an expat. Asia kills the middle east for expat lifestyle.

    So I would firstly initiate a friendly hello and chat at the office. That then gives you better leverage to text her if its difficult to do so around other people in a small office or ask her out directly if you have that sort of chance. Being work colleagues you don't need to delve into a marathon text relationship with her if you go that route. Much better to directly ask her out. Then text her if you need to lock in details or after your date to send her a suprise 'touching' text. If you cannot ask her out directly at work start a chat then text her later to ask her out. Plus you're relatively new so not having a car is no big deal and you're simply out to explore the new city. It's expected that you will be asking out people and meeting a new circle of friends. I wouldn't worry too much about the HB8, just go straight for the HB8.5 and use the HB 8 as a backup and a little jealousy...but really you want to be confident enough to get the HB8.5 straight up. If she is single and you are above average in looks there is no reason she should not say yes to going out with you.

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    Default Re: Target at work.

    Well at first glance, and probably after hearing me talk anyone would think that I'm an expat living in Kuwait. Truth of the matter is, even though I have no accent at all when speaking English, I am Kuwaiti. The girls I usually go after are expats, but that's due to them A. Not being as snobby as 90% of Kuwaiti girls, B. being open minded, and C. Actually being fun to be around. My targets are both middle eastern, Egyptian hb8.5, and Lebanese hb8.

    I do walk to her every now and again to say hello, but the thing is she never starts an actual conversation. To me it seems like she's trying to play safe and not give too many IOI's, since again, here in Kuwait a woman can be labeled a slut just by talking or flirting with a guy in public who she isn't related to, which needless to say is farked up, but that's the culture.

    Both women are single. As for hotel bar's, they're not existent here. Alcohol is completely illegal, however that doesn't mean it's impossible to get, it's just very expensive. Besides I don't really enjoy drinking. I'm more of a smoker.

    As for the car thing, I'm not too worried, I may not have my own car, but I do have a driver shared within the immediate family so I can get around, just not always.

    Being a Muslim or not drinking doesn't really make her or anyone boring or rather less fun to be around in my opinion. It's a more a matter of creativity, and if you aren't creative in a place like Kuwait, yes it will be boring.

    Down to things I should do, so you think that being direct is a good way to go about it? I've been beating around the bush with both girls flirting here and there and throwing out a neg every now and again. With the hb 8.5, she told me that her usual weekend is spent with family... I called her out on it, being boring, in a non serious manner. She took it well. As for th hb 8, I neg her a little more because it's easier to get a reaction out of her, but again she takes it well since she is always smiling at me even if she calls me out on being a little mean.

    I'm simply taking advantage of the situation with hb 8 already. In the sense that I have her chasing me. Technically I also have an unrated chasing me at the office, who is abnoxiously loud about it, so I'm not entirely sure if she is helping or wrecking the situation.

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    Default Re: Target at work.

    There must be some fantastic places to go out for food then? If you can be relatively alone with her at work you can be direct otherwise, especially given her background, it may be easier to start flirting via text. Again a simple 'hey' is the easiest way to initiate this. Let her slowly open up and if you are observant you will find out what she thinks of you. If she doesn't open up ask her lots of questions she will have to answer and be comfortable about answering...I wouldnt neg her on her family I would use it to your advantage by asking her questions about it and give yourself lots of value along the way - especially as your dad is boss. Good luck!

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    Default Re: Target at work.

    Aight, thanks for the feed back. P.s my dad isn't the boss.

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    Default Re: Target at work.

    Sorry, related to boss. I think if you aimed simply to have a great conversation at work with her you can then send a text later in the night and it won't be so out of the blue. If you made her day and said the right things earlier she should flirt a little via text when you contact later after work. Otherwise just ask her out directly 'id like to try this new restaurant that has delicious food - join me'.

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    Default Re: Target at work.

    To update, ty whitedragon for the advice, i finally ended up having a couple of good conversations with her, and now we're see'ing each other Now I'm at the point of building trust. The question now is how to speed up, if possible, the trust building sequence. Again thanks in advance

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    Default Re: Target at work.

    After getting to know each other, make a Statement of Interest.

    For example: "Wow, i've nevet met anyone as romantic as you!"


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