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    Default First Girl/First Time/I Want Her Back

    From the start everything was going great, we laughed talked, & had great sex, btw she was also my first & I was 20, she was 19. We moved very fast & she became my girl friend 2 or 3 weeks after we had sex. Things were cool, until we had a slight arguments. Btw she is also my first girlfriend & that I was the best boyfriend she had & that she wanted me to be her husband...weird for two months.

    1st-I went to lunch with my friend who is a girl, while she was in class, she got out early & seen me with her, she txt me before to see where I was and I told her where I was about to go not exactly the truth but i didnt lie. Her response was to go to lunch at a resturaunt with her ex. Argument I was upset, we apologized & had sex.

    2nd-Were at a school talent show(big event on campus), she comes in I talk to her she acts as if s texts me...I'm done until she texts me "No Hard Feelings, Shit aint working out." She comes over we argue, make up & fuck.

    3rd-Argument over hersay, the dumbest one, but in this argument she tells me that before school ended she was gonna break up with me, I BEGIN TO LEAVE HER ROOM, ending the relationship, she jumps in front of the door, & tells me she loves me, like "IN LOVE", idiotically i take her back.

    After that our relationship was dull we werent talking i was already a broke college student so i couldnt take her many places, & she began going out & hanging with her friends more. I even broke up with her because I felt she didnt want tho be with me but we got back together.

    2 weeks into the summer, my grades came in they were not good, grandfather passed, & all in all I was losing my mind, wasnt sleeping because my txt were unanswered, skype, boring,& she partied alot, so I called her told her how I felt, & that was it.

    She later blasted me on twitter, saying I wasnt shit & wasted her time, she txt me to apologize, but I was angry...another arguemnt, 7 days later, she txt me to apologize again, but i was kinda emotional, told her i loved her, but she wasnt heearing it. then like 15 days later I txt her to get her back, but she had a bf, they broke up then she wanted me back, i didn t take her back, now she txt me when she's drunk. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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    Default Re: First Girl/First Time/I Want Her Back

    I honestly believe you should take this as a learning experience. No one and I mean NO ONE who is in this type of relationship lasts. Marriage will never come and if it does it will be a disaster. I know this is not what you want to hear and you will probably keep trying to see if things will work. But there's a very good chance that it won't. I know because I've been there. The two main reasons people stay in a damaged relationship are "hope for change" and "fear of loss." Once you let these two concepts go then you will be able to move on.

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    Default Re: First Girl/First Time/I Want Her Back

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    I honestly believe you should take this as a learning experience. No one and I mean NO ONE who is in this type of relationship lasts. Marriage will never come and if it does it will be a disaster. I know this is not what you want to hear and you will probably keep trying to see if things will work. But there's a very good chance that it won't. I know because I've been there. The two main reasons people stay in a damaged relationship are "hope for change" and "fear of loss." Once you let these two concepts go then you will be able to move on.

    Thanks, I can take honesty...but what exactly can I learn from it?...what were my weak points?, is there something I could have done better...Is is possible to rebuild an attraction? WAS I A PUSH-OVER????

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    Can't really pinpoint what you did. Honestly you have a strong pull on her or had one. That is a sign of extreme rapport which can be good, but dangerous if not handled carefully. And this type of relationship you're in is one of those "emotional rollercoasters" you keep hearing about. They are the most passionate relationships and make you feel so alive. But they are very unhealthy for a long term. Usually the other person responds well if you ignore them or just don't put 100% of your attention on them. But again this is unhealthy. The way I got out of mine was that I set a time limit for myself. That if things didn't change then no matter how I felt I still ended it if the time limit was reached. And honestly I haven't looked back. I understand the relationship dynamics now and I'm actually good friends with my ex today and we both know it would never work. I've met some wonderful women since, special in their own way and I enjoy it very much.

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    Default Re: First Girl/First Time/I Want Her Back

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Can't really pinpoint what you did. Honestly you have a strong pull on her or had one. That is a sign of extreme rapport which can be good, but dangerous if not handled carefully. And this type of relationship you're in is one of those "emotional rollercoasters" you keep hearing about. They are the most passionate relationships and make you feel so alive. But they are very unhealthy for a long term. Usually the other person responds well if you ignore them or just don't put 100% of your attention on them. But again this is unhealthy. The way I got out of mine was that I set a time limit for myself. That if things didn't change then no matter how I felt I still ended it if the time limit was reached. And honestly I haven't looked back. I understand the relationship dynamics now and I'm actually good friends with my ex today and we both know it would never work. I've met some wonderful women since, special in their own way and I enjoy it very much.

    Thanks again, but how do you handle rapport, cause i didnt know I was even doing that...what are the benfits?, how do i use it in the correct way?

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    Default Re: First Girl/First Time/I Want Her Back

    Rapport is simply "a sympathic relationship." You two have that which is why you are always breaking up and making up. It bypasses pride and ego if it's strong enough. The trick is not getting into a make up/break up pattern with these extreme levels of rapport. To use it the right way is just to use it sparingly. Being emotional ALL the time is not healthy on my opinion. The benefits are its easier to get a woman into bed if you have rapport with her but this is not your case. This is geared towards guys trying to build a connection with a woman.


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