So right now I have a few good friends with benefits situations but at the same time I am going out/ dating with more of a relationship goal in mind at this point.
Before going into boring details - here is my question:
Do you guys think that if going for a relationship rather than a random hookup I should back off on disarming F-close LMR? Should I just be more patient? My feeling always was that if after a few dates they are still having doubts, it's never going to happen. Thus handle the LMR and F-close and then move on. But, this has happened twice in almost the exact same way, so I am re-thinking my position. Any thoughts?
If you are still reading, here are more details about what happened (twice in a row):
In both cases we had gone on a few good dates before finally f-closing (first girl was around 4 dates second girl was on 2nd date). In both cases the girls seem into it but when working towards the f-close they give me a lot of LMR. I obviously worked passed it and we f-closed. I truly don't think I ever crossed the line in terms of not respecting a "real no" and the nights both ended fairly well after (so the girls never seemed upset or anything, girl 2 wanted to have another go).
But, after f-closing something seems to change a few days later when we talk again. Girl 1 hung out again but flat out said she had fun but didn't want to keep hanging out and Girl 2 seems to be fading away in the same way as Girl 1.
Again, with the above girls I was seeing if a relationship would eventually develop rather than just trying to close as fast as possible and move on. I don't mind being a little patient because I do have a rotation of girls for other things, but I obviously don't want to waste my time either.
Thanks a lot, appreciate all the help!