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    Default Help! I am falling for my friends girlfriend.

    Alright so I am 18 and my friend is away at bootcamp for the marines, he will be back in like a month and a half, but i talk to his girlfriend occasionally and we have been hanging out a lot (going for runs, swimming, movies). He has been dating her for like 2 years like on and off, he has cheated on her a couple times but she has no clue. Like i feel that he doesnt treat her right and she doesnt know it, but since ive been hanging out with her im falling for her or scratch that, i have fallen for her, she seems like the perfect girlfriend. What do i do? I havent made a move yet, how do i tell her, should i tell her? She doesnt seem like the girl that would cheat on him though, she loves him too much.

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    Default Re: Help! I am falling for my friends girlfriend.

    This may not be what you want to hear, but trust me when I say to drop this. Understand that the forbidden fruit always seems to taste better, but understand that if you call a woman "perfect" in any way it just means that you haven't given yourself the opportunity to take her for granted yet.

    And do not forget your friend. She is a big girl and if she responds to him treating her less than perfect than that is on her. The cheating part is something you should bring to your friend and not her. Give him the opportunity to confess to her or tell him that you no longer want to be in the middle and to not tell you about any future cheatees he has.

    We have a term for what you are experiencing.....it' s called one-itis. It's a great feeling, but utterly dangerous. Simple as that.

    Again this may not be what you want to hear, but I have been where you are and have the experience. Best thing for you to do is to turn your friends gf into a wingman and have her introduce you to her friends. Also take a step back from hanging out with her and talk to other women. You may be surprised that after you do that and find someone else that you like, that you will laugh while admitting you may have gotten alittle ahead of yourself. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: Help! I am falling for my friends girlfriend.

    Everything BatMan has said is 100%. Ive been in your situation plenty of times becauses im single and most of my friends have a girlfriend that is always around when im hanging out with them. I start to become really friendly with them and they become friendly with me. Your situation is honestly not going to go anywhere. It seems she has you in the friend zone and even if you got a lay out of it she will still be in love with your friend so i dont think it will last long. Also dont forget about the homies, real ones are better to have tham a quick lay. Just my 2 cents from experience.

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    Default Re: Help! I am falling for my friends girlfriend.

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Best thing for you to do is to turn your friends gf into a wingman and have her introduce you to her friends. Also take a step back from hanging out with her and talk to other women.
    Thanks for the advice, but how do I ask her to do that? I feel a little awkward asking her...

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    Default Re: Help! I am falling for my friends girlfriend.

    Both the replies are completely true. Remain a bro.

    You can just flat out ask her to hook you up with one of her friends. Women talk about dating and relationships all the time so she knows what her friends want. She's a friend of yours so if you ask her if she could hook you up, she'll most likely be excited about that. Even if she isn't (little chance), she'll be like "my friends aren't the right kind of girl for you". When you're hanging out, just casually ask her "hey, I'd like to start dating again. Do you have any cute friends you could hook me up with?"

    Hell, she could even arrange you a blind date straight away that way. Okay, not completely blind - ask her for a picture first, lol. You don't want to end up with the outsider chick who never has a boyfriend for a good reason.

    So it's all right to just ask her.

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    Default Re: Help! I am falling for my friends girlfriend.

    alright guys i am really falling for her, would my best option be to get away from her? not completely ignore her but stop hanging out?

    but if i ask her to hook me up with one of her friends wouldn't she just think that i only see her as a friend? also i would like to leave the window open that if her and my friend do break up i would like to get the chance to get with her.

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    Default Re: Help! I am falling for my friends girlfriend.

    Your friend's girlfriend isn't a place you should be heading for, so if you're really falling for her I'd advice you to get away from her and clear your head by going after some other women.

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    Default Re: Help! I am falling for my friends girlfriend.

    You sure this guy is your friend, or are you just using the word for lack of a better term? Sounds more like somebody that you know, because honestly I've had "friends" like you and they ended up being disgusting people. They were all p*ssies unable to generate a strong enough frame to overpower their emotions. They are slaves to their feelings. Those people make me sick, and I would hope that you are better than that. Maybe he has cheated on her, but that's none of you concern. I don't believe that you should be playing a role in their relationship.

    If this guy is your friend, then be a friend. If not then who cares, but don't piss on your bros. Girls are easy to find; good bros are not.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cody View Post
    You sure this guy is your friend, or are you just using the word for lack of a better term? Sounds more like somebody that you know, because honestly I've had "friends" like you and they ended up being disgusting people. They were all p*ssies unable to generate a strong enough frame to overpower their emotions. They are slaves to their feelings. Those people make me sick, and I would hope that you are better than that. Maybe he has cheated on her, but that's none of you concern. I don't believe that you should be playing a role in their relationship.

    If this guy is your friend, then be a friend. If not then who cares, but don't piss on your bros. Girls are easy to find; good bros are not.
    your totally right, i dont know what i was thinking. ugh, i need to get away from this girl...thanks guys.


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