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    Exclamation Depressed and need some help.

    Hey guys im 18 about to be 19 and unfortunately a virgin. I have been really feeing depressed and down lately because of that and ive never had a girlfriend before, i have a month and a half left of summer and i havent hung out with one girl. I really need help meeting girls, my friends are no use so i need to do it on my own. I dont get it, I do find myself good looking, but i struggle with approach anxiety, like if i see a girl walking down the street or standing in a store i have no clue what to say to them. Please i just need help and something to get my spirits up.

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    Default Re: Depressed and need some help.

    It may not seem like it now but i will tell you this. All the things that are happenning to you is going to be the greatest drive in your life.

    So strong that you will not only one day reach all your goals but surpass them.

    Being a virgin is not who you are, unless you let it be appart of your character.
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    Default Re: Depressed and need some help.

    Well, you can sit around and mope or you can take charge and change your fate. Being depressed has no value. There is a ton of information here to get you on your way.

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    Default Re: Depressed and need some help.

    Noone is gonna do it for you get out there and approach.There is literally millions of women out there if one approach sucks its just a learning experience and move on to the next .The last thing you wanna do is sit at home and dwell on it .

    You miss a 100 percent of the shots you dont take its time to take that shot....!

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    Default Re: Depressed and need some help.

    alright i understand that guys but like i said i dont know what to say! i need help with openers and approach anxiety, ive read through tons of threads and i still dont know what to do.

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    Default Re: Depressed and need some help.

    Ok, first get used to talking to people and bantering and if u talk to a beautiful women don't have any objective when ur talking to her. Just get conversational. Get into the frame that your a talkative out going guy. Then once u get settled into this frame then worry about pickup.
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    Default Re: Depressed and need some help.

    Try to understand that you are new to this and you WILL make alot of mistakes and you WILL look silly at times. But the faster you get through the this through the faster you get experience and can start doing the right things. I believe you should start being direct at first. Indirect game is more advanced requires more clever thoughts. Just go up to her and say "Hi. I noticed you and just had to introduce myself." If it doesn't pick up say "It's been a pleasure. Good day." Most women want the same thing we want. And most women WANT you to approach them. They made a decision about you in the first 5 seconds of seeing you before you even speak a word. So waiting for a clever opener to come to you will change that opinion she has of you. So basically just say "fuck it" and just do it. There is no way around it. Have fun.

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    Default Re: Depressed and need some help.

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Try to understand that you are new to this and you WILL make alot of mistakes and you WILL look silly at times. But the faster you get through the this through the faster you get experience and can start doing the right things. I believe you should start being direct at first. Indirect game is more advanced requires more clever thoughts. Just go up to her and say "Hi. I noticed you and just had to introduce myself." If it doesn't pick up say "It's been a pleasure. Good day." Most women want the same thing we want. And most women WANT you to approach them. They made a decision about you in the first 5 seconds of seeing you before you even speak a word. So waiting for a clever opener to come to you will change that opinion she has of you. So basically just say "fark it" and just do it. There is no way around it. Have fun.
    Most people will argue that you should start with indirect game, because it's closer to what you were doing before and direct game requires way more confidence, conviction and a stronger frame.

    However, I completely skipped the indirect phase, except for attracting women I already knew/go to school with by conveying alpha traits. It was quite difficult to just walk up to a woman and open her direct at first, but once I did it.... man, confidence boost!

    Johnnybob, I completely know what it's like to sit at home, depressed about your relationship with women in general and what it's like to start out direct, skipping indirect game. I'm still not that far in it but I don't have a problem opening random women on the streets in a direct fashion and if you need any help with that - tell me anytime.

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    Default Re: Depressed and need some help.

    thanks for all the advice guys, yeah i tink i am just afraid of being rejected so that is something i need to overcome but also i have another problem, can you guys help me out? especially you virgil. here is my thread: http://www.puaforums.com/ask-expert/...irlfriend.html

    i just cant get her out of my head, i want her.

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    Default Re: Depressed and need some help.

    First off, if y'all are friends, don't even go there. It's a respect thing, snd if you're on the receiving end of that situation, you don't know the definition of "mad" until that happens. You want to be a good friend, remove yourself from that situation.

    As far as the depression, I know how you feel. I've been thee, I'm still fighting it. Honestly, of I knew my last relationship would end like it did, I would have passed for the dimples fact of I broke my heart and hers. She's my "oneitits", and will be. I can't talk to women, hell people in general. Just read "The Game", "Rules Of The Game', and the material here and try to apply it little by little.
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