I'm looking for advice about "just seeing" a couple of different gals at the same time, setting up "friends with benefits" relationships or entering into "open relationships." I've read a couple of posts about this, and everything that I could find on Wikipedia. I don't want any kind of dishonesty. If everything progresses well with my current girls, I'll tell them in a couple of weeks that I'm not ready to see one girl exclusively.
Time management was getting to be a challenge with setting up various "day 2s" in rapid succession. I like this quote from PUA Lingo:
"I have 4 MLTRs right now. It is starting to eat into my work schedule."
PUA Lingo website
Being honest and respecting women is central to who I am. Reading this post made me decide that I need to sign up for these online forums and offer my two cents about being respectful and courteous to our lovely ladies: How to Sneak Around with Different Women by a guy on this forum
I could never live by that guy's rules, so I found a different set of rules to abide by: Be Honest from Spark of Attraction
I'm pursuing a couple of different gals at the same time:
HB Neon, a gal that I met through my salsa class
HB Geeky, a gal that I met online.
For the time being, I've decided to friend-zone two others:
Cray-cray, a mutual friend who is going through some personal struggles;
Ecuador, a family friend who just got out of a serious relationship
From June 15th to July 15th, I had six "day 2s" with five different girls. It was part of a challenge that I set for myself, and it definitely opened my eyes to some possibilities. However, this is uncharted territory for me. I've always only pursued one girl at a time. The closest that I came to mLTR was going on "first dates" with three different girls in a row. Even then, my intention was finding just one to focus my attention on.
I'm going to use mLTR to represent all of the possible open relationship formats: open relationships, casually dating, friends with benefits, etc
When do you bring up the idea of mLTR? Do you wait for her to bring it up? Or is it better to nip this issue in the bud and see if she's going to be okay with it? Currently I'm thinking to do it after seeing her for the fifth time.
How do you bring up that you are just looking for mLTR rather than a committed relationship? HB Neon has already told me that she's open to friends with benefits, so I'm not concerned about her. I met HB Geeky through a dating website, so I'm not sure that she'll be open to this. I'm figuring that I just put it out there casually while talking about relationships and what not rather than make a big deal of it. This is just who I am.
How do you actually manage the mLTRs? I'll divide this one into sub-points. I've found that even going on six "day 2s" in a period of 30 days was getting to cut into my schedule, so time management. I like introducing my friends to each other, so relating her to your social life. I tend to talk about people that I care about, so discussing other women with her.
Thank you in advance for feedback on my posting and any insights.