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    Default Wedding: What went wrong....

    Hey PUAs...as a heads up this happened last week and was the first approach I have made to a girl in 9 years!!! after coming out of a long term relationship. I'm just looking for some pointers to what I could have done better, it's all about learning right?

    Anyhoo,

    I went to a wedding of a friend and was sat at a table with a bunch of some guys n' gals I already knew. There was this new girl that was an invite +1 for another girl at the table.

    I was looking pretty damn good in an awesome suit. We were introduced and built up a rapport. I asked her about her Uni course, ambitions etc and made insightful comments about her personality..."..you don't like to be the centre of attention right, I bet you..." anyway, she responded wide eyed as if I had found out her innermost secrets. I made a few little negs about how when she smiled little cute wrinkles appeared around her eyes. She started asking about me then.....whenever we would talk her girl friend who invited her there...kept interrupting drunk...then it'd be awkward starting the conversation again.

    Later, the music was going and she let out her hand to take me to the dance floor. I took it and gave it a little squeeze...she squeezed back! IOI

    We danced...we had fun but then she had to go suddenly...no close...EEP!

    She added me as friend on FB the next day, so I asked her whether she wanted to go for a drink sometime and she mentioned that her boyfriend wouldn't like it and that she adores him and he adores her.

    WTF?!? no mention of the wonderful boyfriend all night lol.

    So any pointers chaps...I'm sure there are more holes in my night than in a tramp's vest, but any help'd be appreciated.

    Did I mention...first attempt in 9 years? lol

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    Default Re: Wedding: What went wrong....

    I don't see anything obviously wrong, except I would have gone for the number somewhat earlier and kept the conversation flowing, like " hey, before we get interrupted again let me get your number bla bla ".
    But to be honest, no guarantee that would have worked. Your game sounded solid. A lot of girls eat up the attention but would stop before it got too far. Or some would go for it anyway. Sounds like the BF is legitimate tho, enjoy it as practice for now because it went well
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    Default Re: Wedding: What went wrong....

    Thanks Red Baron,

    It felt as though it was going well. It's good to know that the whole long relationship thing didn't wither away all my game. Good confidence boost.

    Respect

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    Default Re: Wedding: What went wrong....

    I would tell her that it would be strictly as friends. Something like "Whoa whoa, did you think I'm asking you on a date? Please, you've got to work a little harder for that with me :P"
    Make it seem like you're just going as friends, even if you're going to game her. I would use straight indirect game though and definitely throw in the boyfriend destroyer technique (can be found on this site if you haven't read it yet).

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    Default Re: Wedding: What went wrong....

    Be careful with the boyfriend destroyer, it's a big responsibility

    A wedding is a very specific situation, girls HATE being single in a wedding, she used you as a substitute boyfriend for the night; still means you were her first choice of the night, and your game was definitely solid in my opinion

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    Default Re: Wedding: What went wrong....

    Nice touch KnightTurner....I like the misinterpretation switch.

    She seems cool but there is going to be a whole new campus to explore come Autumn. If we meet organically there, we can go for coffee with no seeming hidden agenda...(she's on the same course as I'm going on and a couple of years ahead of me, so she'll be around) and I might go for what you said.

    But the whole boyfriend + the word "adore"; not a passive love, like...etc....but a full on adore...thats a wall. Better to back off now, to steal later when her defenses are down.

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    Default Re: Wedding: What went wrong....

    Good point Mikalichov,

    When I meet her on campus I'll know one way or another whether her feelings are the same out of the wedding scenario; but nice insight dude.

    But until then I'll find other rumpus on campus. The game is a foot!

    Thespian


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