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    Default Re: I Banged one of my GF'S best friends! NOW WHAT?

    So your girlfriend knows you slept with her best friend, and she's okay with it?

    Just trying to clarify the situation.

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    Default Re: I Banged one of my GF'S best friends! NOW WHAT?

    You gave the impression that your current gf didn't know about the other woman when you mentioned that you both agreed to keep it a secret. But thanks for the clarification and apologies for putting you on the defensive.

    If the other woman is having hangups though, and your gf is not, then she obviously hasn't had experience with an open relationship. After a few more "accidental" encounters with her she should grow used to the situation. I would advise not trying to convince her that your gf is ok with it, at this time, but maybe she can handle that conversation. That will be left up to your judgment.

    Oh and I would like to comment on one thing you mentioned.....if you verbally agree with a woman to be exclusive, then that is good enough in my eyes and feel it's still wrong if you sneak around just because you aren't married. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: I Banged one of my GF'S best friends! NOW WHAT?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    You gave the impression that your current gf didn't know about the other woman when you mentioned that you both agreed to keep it a secret. But thanks for the clarification and apologies for putting you on the defensive.

    If the other woman is having hangups though, and your gf is not, then she obviously hasn't had experience with an open relationship. After a few more "accidental" encounters with her she should grow used to the situation. I would advise not trying to convince her that your gf is ok with it, at this time, but maybe she can handle that conversation. That will be left up to your judgment.

    Oh and I would like to comment on one thing you mentioned.....if you verbally agree with a woman to be exclusive, then that is good enough in my eyes and feel it's still wrong if you sneak around just because you aren't married. Hope this helps and good luck.

    He never confirmed if his girlfriend actually knows anything, we're still waiting for his response.

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    Default Re: I Banged one of my GF'S best friends! NOW WHAT?

    So are you saying your girlfriend will be cool with it? Cause your wording confused the crap out of me there.

    As for the other girl...what you could be dealing with is post-sex LMR, specifically her anti-slut defense. It's uncommon, but not at all unheard of. Deal with it the same way you would normal LMR (look for more long term solutions as opposed to freeze outs cause that's not going to help you). You cannot be logical with this cause she's not thinking with logic, she's thinking with emotions and gut feelings. If you really want to go forward with this, that'd be the way to do it.

    I'll post some helpful threads later tonight.

    But dude...Cody and Virgil know more about being alphas than anyone, and Batman's one of the sites best PUAs. Show a little respect cause the truth is, they're right. You've got to tell your GF no matter how "on the inside" she is. If she doesn't know, you've got to tell her. Truth and respect is what separates us from all the jerks and jackasses out there.

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    Default Re: I Banged one of my GF'S best friends! NOW WHAT?

    Quote Originally Posted by DeviantMethod View Post
    WHAT I WANT TO KNOW IS WHAT TO SUSPECT FROM THIS OTHER GIRL! AND HOW TO KEEP IT GOING? IS THERE ANYONE ALPHA MALE OUT THERE WHO CAN ANSWER MY QUESTION... Now can someone with experience please not cast a judgement and answer my question.
    As I understand it, this girl just had sex with her best friend's boyfriend behind her back. Are you sure that's something you want to get caught up in? If you do, hey, no judgement. To each their own.

    You would proceed by either being open with both of them, or I suppose continuing a discrete relationship behind your girfriend's back...which she is apparently aware of so that shouldn't be a problem.

    I do want to point out that as a self-proclaimed alpha male you shouldn't feel the need to defend yourself. "Never Complain, Never Explain." - Benjamin Disraeli. Also, we're a pretty tight knit community. You can't just burst in, whip out your d*ck, and start pissing on everyone and everything. We are a welcoming group so long as you don't make assumptions about us as well. (i.e. assuming we are beta to you.)

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    Default Re: I Banged one of my GF'S best friends! NOW WHAT?

    Well Put Cody.

    About the thread starter....I noticed his attitude ever since he started posting in this site. Condescending towars others, as if we are all Beta's and he's the only alpha around here.

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    Default Re: I Banged one of my GF'S best friends! NOW WHAT?

    Quote Originally Posted by pwonager View Post
    Well Put Cody.

    About the thread starter....I noticed his attitude ever since he started posting in this site. Condescending towars others, as if we are all Beta's and he's the only alpha around here.
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    Default Re: I Banged one of my GF'S best friends! NOW WHAT?

    She'll tell her friend. They always do. I had a threesome with a girl I was casually dating but wasn't pursuing a long term relationship and she knew. The other girl was her friend. I started hooking up with the other girl too afterwards. First girl knew after the other girl told her. I could of kept it going with both, but turned it down with the first not to hear about it even though she knew I wasn't interested in a relationship.

    In your spot, the girl will tell your "gf". But if your direct with your "gf" your just casually dating/sexing with no long term relationship, you'll be fine to carry on. Just be direct with what you want and know what your seeking in a partner(s) and tell the girl that you enjoy hanging out with her but doesn't fulfill all your qualities. For me, it was the girl not wanting kids and I do. Human's like the chase, so they will keep chasing you hoping to change you.


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