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    Default Why would she ignore after showing interest?

    I think she has a crush on me , we stared at each other once for like 4 seconds maybe longer. Times I remember, one time she bumped by elbow on purpose I just blew some sh*tty line like "Excuse me I didn't see you there", another time she basically came walking towards and stood right by me while I was alone I blew a hey and she got nervous and looked at the floor instantly. As days when on college came to an end I never got a chance to meet her she basically avoided me. Anyway I sent her a message on face-book I just said I never got a chance to meet and fully introduce myself etc..she ignored it I sent another a week later and still ignored (she has been updating her stats this whole time) I'm guessing she is shy because around others she's social and participates in class etc..now I got her number here my friend gave it to me because I mentioned her I am having trouble if I should call and waht I should say i know i'd be a bit creepy if i did but maybe i could make up a story or something

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    Default Re: Why would she ignore after showing interest?

    It seems like you went from 0-100 with this one. Maybe it threw her off with your sudden open interest in her. But it could also be something that isn't related to you at all. I would NOT use her phone number at this time. That would be going from 0-200.

    See if she will accept a friend request first. Afterwards, you may want to take a step back and just comment on a couple of her statuses and make sure your statuses are worth commenting. If she is interested she will show SOME kind of reciprocation to one of these. Open a line of communication then you can start gaming her. Remember that big jumps in interactions can add a lot of pressure. High risk, high reward. Now you should try some low risk/low reward so it can build up more naturally without any huge jumps.

    It's also a possibility that she gets alot of messages and just didn't get a chance to see yours or didn't check at all. I remember an HB10 telling me that she received 524 messages in one day. It's really insane how many guys there are messaging attractive women. After you friend request try to contact her when she is online. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: Why would she ignore after showing interest?

    Thats a good idea man but I think I should just call and be a little direct. I just wanna find out why she ignored me that's all like have her tell me. she never accepted the request so I cant see her when she's online or not I screwed up when she gave me signs of interest and kinda ignored them :/

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    Default Re: Why would she ignore after showing interest?

    Quote Originally Posted by Fun_Guy View Post
    Thats a good idea man but I think I should just call and be a little direct. I just wanna find out why she ignored me that's all like have her tell me. :/
    Be very careful.

    What you are purposing is confrontational. I used to do this all the time as a young AFC in high school / college. Do not let your curiosity/frustration/insecurity turn into confrontation.
    Remember:
    You don't need her.
    You have other options.
    You don't need an answer.

    Actually try reading your post again & notice how much is your opinion vs fact. You have assumed her emotional state throughout:
    I think she has a crush
    she bumped by elbow on purpose
    she got nervous
    she basically avoided me
    she ignored it (1st message)
    still ignored (2nd message
    I'm guessing she is shy

    It's wise you're asking for advice. I think you should take BatMan's thoughts to heart and do NOT call her.

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    Default Re: Why would she ignore after showing interest?

    This is tough I really wanted this one though thanks for all the advice but I really want to call I just see it as I just call tell her how i got the number talk for a bit create rapport then ask for a date seems like it would go smooth but I'd be kinda creepy calling but part of being a man is just taking risk right?

    What would I gain from calling and what would I lose?
    What would I gain and what would I loose form not calling?
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    Default Re: Why would she ignore after showing interest?

    Dude, don't call her. Take the advice already given to you. By calling her, she's most likely going to think:
    1. This is really creepy. He tries to add me on fb. Now he's calling my number. Omg, where did he get it from?
    2. This guy is a total afc. (why don't you talk to me? Why have you been ignoring me?) It won't help.

    Start over or you'll scare her off with your needy behavior. Remember, a PUA has other options all the time.

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    Default Re: Why would she ignore after showing interest?

    Alright I wont call thanks for the advice guys

    Now schools gonna start up again it'll be kinda awkward if I see her again

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    Default Re: Why would she ignore after showing interest?

    I think I agree:don't call her. At the same time I think she may have been interested. I saw something I think on this site that made the point: attraction is not black and white. A woman's feelings may change some over a period of time. I'm certainly no expert but if you're not getting results with her it might be time to back off. Maybe you've done something that turned her off. Point is that if you chase her too hard that'll just scare her away. I think I've done that with a woman I know in the last year. I'm not sure exactly what I did but in the past she showed some genuine interest and this year recently she's been giving me the cold shoulder. I'm pretty sure I did something though I'm not sure what it was. Anyway,back to you: if you really are interested I'd try take it easy and maybe find a way to let HER come to you. I don't think anything else is likely to work at this point.

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    Default Re: Why would she ignore after showing interest?

    Most things aren't in terms of right and wrong. It's more about high risk/high reward vs low risk/low reward. In this case calling her would be considered very high risk.....but if you pull it off it could be a very high reward. With my experience though I'm going to guess it won't end well. Just understand what your doing is not wrong, just very high risk. Some of us prefer to play a solid to increase the liklihood of sleeping with the woman, and asking her why she ignored you is kind of squashing those chances. So a friendly warning...proceed at your own risk.

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    Default Re: Why would she ignore after showing interest?

    DO NOT call. I used to make this mistake 1-2 years ago A LOT. Never call her unless you got the number from her, if you do she'll think your a creep.
    It seems like she lost interest and a call that she didn't allow will make u look even worse in her eyes. Just be subtle about it, use facebook, make some small talk whenever you see her.

    Here's the important thing:

    When a girl likes you, every move you make towards her is appriciated.
    When she doesn't, every move towards her looks creepy to her.
    If she lost interest make moves that are very subtle, until you can get the interest back.
    Best of all would probably be to move on to someone else though. Getting a girl to REGAIN interest is a lot harder than getting her to GAIN interest upon first meeting her.


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