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    Default Can't tell if this date went well or not

    So I'm pretty much AFC, *trying* my hardest to get into all this, and I'm looking for some feedback / expert opinions on my date last night because I'm honestly not sure if it went well, or what I could have done better...

    So I took this girl (HB7sh) out for coffee last night, and was chaining DHV stories, and getting all kinds of ioi in return.. turns out we were both planning on going to see the batman premiere last night, although at different theaters ( this is important for later ).

    The place closed half an hour after we met, and I was planning on leaving it at that, but she asked *me* to bounce to a park nearby (this was at 9:00 at night) so I went with it.

    The walk was fun, lots of joking, kino, and laughing, bunch of ioi still, I felt like I was really in the zone.

    We sat down at a bench, and I was escalating kino, working up to a kiss... after about 5 minutes she gets a phone call from a friend who's in from out of town, and getting ready to leave but wanted to see her before she left.

    so my date asks me if I minded if we went and met them, and I wasn't happy about it (obviously) but I told her it was fine.

    We meet with her friend and her friend's boyfriend, and I decided to treat the situation as if I had just approached a 3 set in a club... I kind of ignored my date, and focused on making the boyfriend my buddy, and disarming the girlfriend.

    It worked well, and I had several times when everyone was laughing... I also noticed that sometimes when my date was telling inside stories, and I acted like my interest was waning, she would try to pull me into the story by explaining who these people were, or why it was funny.. etc..

    after about half an hour, she said that she had to leave, or she was going to miss the batman movie (her theater was about half an hour farther away than the one I was going to) .. So she gave hugs to everyone, and hugged me the same way she hugged her friends, and said "I had fun hanging out with you, see ya later" and left... and no texts yet saying she wanted to see me again, or apologizing for the friends, or anything... though to be fair, she's probably still asleep, batman was a long ass movie :P


    so did I somehow manage to go from alone in the park escalating kino to friend zoned in half an hour? How should I have handled that situation instead?

    Am I reading too much into this, or is this a situation that I need to recover from, and if so, how?

    Thanks everyone!

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    Default Re: Can't tell if this date went well or not

    There's nothing wrong with what you did dude, and nothing wrong with the way it ended

    You gotta let your frustration go, it would be AFC to show her you were disappointed in the friends, etc. plus she kept you in the loop. Look at it as a good thing, you got her friends approval. If it was a test, you passed

    Her not sending a message after is not ignoring you, just like us, girls who know what they're doing try not to show too much interest all at once, that's all she's doing. It's a good thing

    Just give it a few days and invite her out somewhere again, something where you guys can continue to talk a bit more. I like outdoor activities or comedy

    You could have told her to wait on the bench before you left and worked in a kiss, but there's nothing wrong with not.

    Don't text her right away, don't feel any obligation to text her the next day, make her wonder
    Never need praise, sympathy, or approval



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    Default Re: Can't tell if this date went well or not

    Your reading too much into it. Its good to analyze what worked and didn't. But the real question is did you have a good time and fun? If you did, that is what matters. You have fun, in the moment you will attract women.

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    Default Re: Can't tell if this date went well or not

    You should not only pay attention to what she is doing, but also what she is not doing. She may have neglected to contact you and invite you to see the movie, but she also asked you to hang out after the cafe and to tag along to see a friend from out of town. Red Baron is right about the possibility of her hiding her interest at the moment. It's safer to always assume attraction so your behavior will be perceived as such. Give it a day or two and you will have a better picture of her interest level in you.


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