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    Default Playing up Innocent and Cute

    Im 19, and I am good looking enough when I go to work, school or parties I get quite alot of attention from girls right away. However due to my extreme shyness I have never gone very far with any girl. Despite this I have had quite a few really hot girls like and even want to sleep with me. When this has happend girls have thought of me in different ways however they always think I am cute instead of hot. So I was wondering is it unnatractive to play up cute around girls at times? For example I know girls at work who thought I was good looking however they also thought I was super cocky. So when we were alone in the break room I would say something they would think was super thoughtful and sweet to one of them every once in a while but be cocky most of the time. I am very good at being sweet and innocent I was wondering when I should impliment this, if ever. Does it build comfort or just make them feel like I am unnatractive?

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    Default Re: Playing up Innocent and Cute

    Building comfort like that can be good IN MODERATION. Your main attitude should be dominant. Wemon like men for being men, the confort/cute part is just so they can be sure you won't rape/kill them when you're alone(looking at it from a primitive perspective).

    You need that confort to make the distinction between a real asshole and a real man. That's the only purpose, if you're always cute and innocent that's a one way ticket to the friend zone.

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    Default Re: Playing up Innocent and Cute

    Gwkiller69 made a great point,

    Women are looking for MEN, (not just "a guy") so they do want someone cofident & more of an "Alpha Male". But, your cute, polite, sweet side has to make an appearance as well.

    I just started dating a girl a week ago. In our online messages & texts my game has been bulletproof! (Mainly because I have also been genuine to my personality as well).
    In the one week we've been dating, she's spent the night at my place twice.

    But she texted me last night to say, she's blown away about the fact that, I do "little things" that she thinks are sooooooo sweet. She mentioned "walking her to her car, opening doors for her, making her walk on the inside of the sidewalk, cooking her breakfast..."

    Little things like THAT, mean sooooo much more than buying her gifts/dinner/drinks, or spending lots of money on her in general. (So far, I've only spent $6.00 on her. And she's driving close to 70 miles round trip to see me / sleep with me.)

    It's a matter of being a confident, decisive MAN, but still showing a thoughtful, caring, sweet side; Because that will build comfort & increase attraction.

    Trust me, she's not investing all this time & effort into me because I lavished her with gifts & paid for a bunch of stuff....
    It's because I found a good balance between being the "bad-boy" that attracts her & "Great Man" that she feels safe & secure with!

    -Basically just don't over-game her.
    Don't be afraid to tap into the cute/sweet side of yourself... but at the same time, don't turn into a wuss!



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    Default Re: Playing up Innocent and Cute

    I find this very helpful, as I am always having an inner conflict around how should behave socially around women. I have read quite a lot about how women want a "dominant man" however I also have heard women talk and talk about how they like a sensitive wimp. Even with all the evidence around me supporting the Alpha gets the girl I somehow conclude if I am always sweet to them, they may possibly like me. However I believe my idea on the matter was too black and white. As both of you said I should be dominant most of the time however on occasion it is fine to show my sensitivity. So I can move forward comfortable that women find this dominance attractive, and I should behave like an Alpha. However this still leaves me with a problem.
    While I can behave in a more dominant fashion around girls I still am super innocent. I really have done very little with girls sexually and I have never had a girlfriend. Being 19 I do worry about this, how am I supposed to be dominant and take charge when essentially every girl I know is an experienced veteran with at least four years of big league experience, and I am a rookie coming straight out of high school? This is the biggest reason I play the cute sweet card because the girls that have liked me think my inexperience is cute. I feel like girls will think I am weird and this anxiety is the biggest thing holding me back from having fun with girls. What furthers this problem is when I meet girls my looks combined with perceived confidence or even arrogance leads girls to believe I probably get lots of other girls. When they discover this is not true they tend to find it weird and most of the time lose attraction to me. Any ideas on how to get over this would also be great !

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    Default Re: Playing up Innocent and Cute

    Being "Alpha" really means being yourself (your REAL self) & not caring what other people think about you because of it.
    You just "do your thang" & roll the way you want to.

    Inexperience is where everyone starts from. Period. But the more you get out & interact/ socialize, the more experience you'll gain.

    To be dominant, decisive & in charge, doesn't mean "being rude or obnoxious". So, using your "cute/sweet" qualities is definitely going to be helpful.

    Think of it more as "having class".

    Be sure of yourself & who you really are.... and be TRUE to yourself. That's what "confidence" is. Women are attracted to men who can be themselves & own their true personality.

    Don't be afraid to cut up & act silly & draw some attention to yourself, but understand where to draw the line is social situations. Women don't want to be embarrassed by their guy in public, they want to feel PROUD of him.

    So, having social grace is important. That's where you can benefit from your cute/sweet side. Use it to your advantage. If that's the real you, then own it!

    Sure,.... women love strong, confident, dominant men. But they still need to feel appreciated & cared for. (Especially in a real relationship... which is sorta the angle I'm giving you.)

    It's pretty easy to GET the girl.... but it's a whole different "game" to KEEP her. (pun definitely intended) LOL!

    I guess what I'm saying is, don't be ashamed or afraid of being cute & sweet. That's totally different than being the dreaded "nice guy / beta guy / needy guy / supplicating guy".

    You mentioned that sometimes girls might perceive you as being arrogant, or assuming you get lots of other girls; and they find it "weird" that it's not true....

    So, how do you get over that, or handle it?

    Frame yourself as being a very "selective" guy. Sure, you have lots of options if you want them, but you're the kind of who looks for QUALITY.... not quantity.

    Let them know the reason your "numbers" may not be very high is because, you're looking for someone "special"; someone different than the usual ditsy, crazy bimbo.

    Know what I mean?



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