This is my fist post. Sorry its long, I was at a party about a month ago, i started talking to this girl in the kitchen, she engaged in conversation with me about the BBQ and asked how i liked my burger. We started talking for about 10 minutes..smooth conversation...alot of eye contact..playing with hair..arm touching..etc.. i felt it was to early in the party to ask for her number or anything, and i also had alot of friends there who I havnt seen in a while, she didnt know anybody in the party also, except her friend who brought her there. On and off at the party i must have talked to her about 2-3 times, i brought her over a drink.. outside we talked some more. I felt for sure I had it in the bag, I was feeling very confident and she was interested. Then something happened, which upset me, but actaully spiked my interest in her much more. While I was talking to some female and male friends, she started talking to another guy there. No big deal, i felt no threat, she is about 5/8, and built, he was about 5.6 and chunky, and im 6'3 200, then i seen them exchange numbers.
I was like whats goin on, i should have showed more interest, i wasnt aggressive enough. Those were the thoughts that went through my head. Then her group of friends were leaving to go to another party, she walked over and gave me a hug and said she was leaving, i said goodbye, but didnt ask for her number, main reason i was feeling insecure she gave this guy her number.
On the way home i started thinking about the whole situation, i should have got her number, she seemed so interested, i was attracted to her, we had alot in common, and i blew it. So i did something i never done, i looked her up on facebook and friend requested her and wrote her a small message," it was nice meeting you at the party, i didnt have a chance to get your number, i would like to take you out to dinner sometime". Well she accepted my friends request, but no response from her on the message. I figured that must have been a bad move , going the facebook route and i know it!!
Anyway last week i was out at a club, and in she walks. I was a little buzzed, right when she walked in, i was in the front of the bar, so she had to cross my path. She walks over gives me a hug, so I say joking, "heres the girl thats been ignoring me", she laughs and said she been busy,and starts basic conversation and walks to back of bar. i was resigned to fact she not interested and forgot her. But....she walks back over to me, starts talking to me again, flirting again..so i was just honest, i said ," i thought we hit it off well at the party, and i was suprised when i didnt hear back from you". She says well i defintlly want to hang out, i start acting sarcastic saying we'll see , in a joking manner, and she gives me her number, when i was taking it, i usually do a test to she if they are paying attention and put a wrong number in, and she corrected me, and noticed, so i thought that was a good sign. So at the end of the night, then we went our seperate ways..At the end of the night i sent a casual text..(probably a mistake, im leaving have a nice night") no response..a few days later i called her...no response...shes a tease and game player, but i keep thinking about her, any insight on this situation,,,i know i messed up alot of things. Thanks!!