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    Default how do I recover from this

    This was my second "blown opportunity" in over a month. I could have gone for the close today, I was talking to a girl, she had a doberman pinscher, that's my favorite dog, she did most of the talking and was so enthusiastic about telling me about it that I kept searching in my mind for a way to transition this into a close. I'm so mad at myself, I could have at least tried for the number, but I kept getting afraid of being weird or a creepy stalker guy, I was going to say " maybe we can meet up sometime,what's the best way of keeping in touch" My mind wouldn't let me say it. I didn't know what we would be meeting up for, it sounded weird to me that I would want to meet up with her and walk her dog with her, talk about a stalker. But the pain of not at least trying is eating away at me, has anybody else here experienced an interaction where they had an instinct to go for the number but didn't and now regret it. I could really use some motivation I'm pissed at myself right now, I should be capitalizing on every opportunity but I always chicken out

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    Default Re: how do I recover from this

    I think almost everyone has been in a similar situation starting out. For me, I always just think "this girl would be lucky to have my number, I'm doing her a favor by giving her a way to keep in touch with me." It is all inner game and you just need to establish the mindset that you are of way more value than she is.

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    Default Re: how do I recover from this

    find her on facebook lol, this worked for me lastnight via private mail:

    ME: I want you're number!
    HB8: Hi T, okay lol it's 0426******

    Worked a charm. confidence is key
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: how do I recover from this

    Move on. Forget her, learn the lesson, and remember it the next time you're in the same situation. And if you see her again, go for it!

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    Default Re: how do I recover from this

    @mikalichov

    Even though he is in a wierd position i dont think he should just give up,

    you are very respected on this forum and i repect you alot but while this guy very un confident he may aswell do the try and fail approuch than give up other wise he may get in the habbit of giving up and it would be hard break old habits, what you need to think about charliesheen is if she is worth it. than decide weather she worth the chase or not, you have obviously come to a very critical point and it may be a safe option just ditch and wait for the next one, but if you dont take that risk 10 years down the track you proubly still wish you did, so i say take the risk, play it cool, and show the girls what the PUA do!

    No disrespect intended mikalichov

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    Default Re: how do I recover from this

    No problem man. The thing is that as I understand it, she's just a random woman he met in the park, and talked a couple of minutes with her. The amount of interest you show has to be proportional to the time you spent with her. You can't be all over a girl you met in the street, stalk her on facebook and stuff. So I would just move on, and maybe life will do its job and have us meet again.

    And it's actually a double good lesson for him, as learning how to move on is crazy important. The fewer f*cks you give, the more f*cks you'll have

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    Default Re: how do I recover from this

    i guess it wouldn't hurt is pride just to move, i completely agree with you now. good point, the guy has game he just need to work on closing, for me numbers come easy and girls in australia will give it out because they have the control to respond or not so thee more willing if your pitch is good, what you should do charliesheen is when talking to a girl flirt as you would and act interested but control your body language, this worked for me in the past, i would have confident posture but wouldn't have my hips facing her, women give off and read signals, analize everything so confuse her and she will be way more willing for the close. when she says something like a statement about herself, pause for a second and act a like your thinking about what you said, women judge us, play there game against them.

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    Default Re: how do I recover from this

    I agree with Mika, people around here repeat this old saying "If you love something, let it go. If it returns, itís yours; if it doesnít, it wasnít."


    It happens, even to the best of them.

    Quote Originally Posted by Mikalichov View Post
    No problem man. The thing is that as I understand it, she's just a random woman he met in the park, and talked a couple of minutes with her. The amount of interest you show has to be proportional to the time you spent with her. You can't be all over a girl you met in the street, stalk her on facebook and stuff. So I would just move on, and maybe life will do its job and have us meet again.

    And it's actually a double good lesson for him, as learning how to move on is crazy important. The fewer f*cks you give, the more f*cks you'll have
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